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PepperJ
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I have 2 room mates living in my basement.

I got a couple Christmas presents for one...

The other is Jehovah Witness and doesn't celebrate Christmas.

Do you think it would be offensive to get him gifts? Or mean to NOT?

Btw....there are other issues with him, and he most likely won't be a room mate for too long...

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Perhaps a card with some money.
Money is always useful. Especially so, when you are about to be homeless ;)

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I would do as Eddieee suggested but the same for both. Cash or a gift card to a local store. Save the gifts for giving later perhaps just out of the blue to brighten their day.

And not for any specific religious holiday. JVs don't celebrate birthdays either.

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Do you think the JV room mate would be offended? I kind of don't....but not sure

Maybe I'll have to do a post about the room mate, because it seems like there are some issues...but I feel like some of it is because he's young, but not sure...lol

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I would do as Eddieee suggested but the same for both. Cash or a gift card to a local store. Save the gifts for giving later perhaps just out of the blue to brighten their day.

And not for any specific religious holiday. JVs don't celebrate birthdays either.

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Eddieee wrote:
Perhaps a card with some money.
Money is always useful. Especially so, when you are about to be homeless ;)

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I would do as Eddieee suggested but the same for both. Cash or a gift card to a local store. Save the gifts for giving later perhaps just out of the blue to brighten their day.

And not for any specific religious holiday. JVs don't celebrate birthdays either.

Honestly great advice

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How old is the JW? From my understanding they don't want gifts or are taught to not take them. So it might be offensive depending on how serious they are. Maybe their a chill JW

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* they're a chill JW

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twosocks wrote:
How old is the JW? From my understanding they don't want gifts or are taught to not take them. So it might be offensive depending on how serious they are. Maybe their a chill JW

He's 22.

I think they don't celebrate Thanksgiving, either. But he felt no qualms about taking all of the food that I prepared for TG....

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Maybe it has to be a specific type of gift-giving? Like, maybe he just can't take a wrapped gift. I don't think of food as 'gift', ya know?

I honestly don't know very much about JW. I only recently learned they don't celebrate gift-giving because I'm in a teaching internship and if you have a JW student in your class your not allowed to decorate for any holidays.

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True...but food is/was a celebration of a certain and specific holiday.

But maybe I will just do a gift card in an envelope

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Your roof, your rules - "Welcome to Christmas, Jesus is Lord and here's your sign - er- gift."

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Big-Al-One wrote:
Your roof, your rules - "Welcome to Christmas, Jesus is Lord and here's your sign - er- gift."

Lol, love that simplicity :)

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I would go ahead and buy them both a gift and keep the receipt. Half the Christmas presents bought get returned anyway. We had a Jehovah's Witness family in our neighborhood, twin girls and my mom bought them birthday presents one time and they had to give them back. They were crying when their mom made them do it, it was very awkward.

There was also a really pretty girl in my class that was JW and she wasn't allowed to date anyone that wasn't also a JW and she didn't like it much either. She used to sit next to me and tell me how bad she wanted to go out. She left the church as soon as she moved out of her parent's house. The whole family disowned her.

I remember her sister was the Homecoming Queen in high school and her date was like this guy that was 30. It was kind of strange. It's tough on children to have to adhere to all these rules that basically punish them.

It sounds like this guy is on the fence about his religion too. I'd give him a present just to see what happens... a really nice one. ha

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@DocteurRalph it is very sad for kids. My husb grew up Buddhist and they never celebrated holidays or bdays (I think part of it was religion, but it was also poverty). He said it was very hard to go to school after Christmas break and hear what all the other kids got/did.

I think I'm just going to give him a gift card to a restaurant. In an envelope and not wrapped...

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DocteurRalph wrote:
I would go ahead and buy them both a gift and keep the receipt. Half the Christmas presents bought get returned anyway. We had a Jehovah's Witness family in our neighborhood, twin girls and my mom bought them birthday presents one time and they had to give them back. They were crying when their mom made them do it, it was very awkward.

There was also a really pretty girl in my class that was JW and she wasn't allowed to date anyone that wasn't also a JW and she didn't like it much either. She used to sit next to me and tell me how bad she wanted to go out. She left the church as soon as she moved out of her parent's house. The whole family disowned her.

I remember her sister was the Homecoming Queen in high school and her date was like this guy that was 30. It was kind of strange. It's tough on children to have to adhere to all these rules that basically punish them.

It sounds like this guy is on the fence about his religion too. I'd give him a present just to see what happens... a really nice one. ha

Scientologists are much the same way. Come to think of it, so are Amish/Mennonite. No dating or gift exchanges unless from a fellow believer. I wonder why they feel their beliefs are threatened by such a simple gesture of kindness?

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Honestly, I think being direct with him and simply asking him is your best option. There is no offense in respecting others beliefs but asking about them.

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JWs don't celebrate birthdays or Christmas. Their choice.

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