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I'm thinking of applying for a new job.

If I am accepted it will begin with 4 months training.
For this 4 month period I will earn £600 a month less than I am earning now.
Also I will need to be a 4 hour drive from home Mon to Fri every week for 4 months.
I obviously can't leave my cat (annie) alone for 5 days at a time so I would need to take her with me.
I have no idea if I get a choice of the hotel o stay in whilst away so I could find a pet friendly one, or if it's just down to the employer since they pay for it.
Also I don't think Annie would be happy with a 4 he road trip so often.

I will need to have countless background and medical checks to get the job, this is going to show up my mental illness, and this could prevent me from getting the job, but I won't know this til very far down the line.

I need to undertake many fitness tests, and right now I am pretty unfit so will need to train hard to get to standard.

I have pretty severe social anxiety.
I'm not too bad around people and situations I'm used to, but this is going to be way outside my comfort zone.

For my 1st year of employment I will earn approx £2000 a year less than I do now.
In my 2nd year I will earn similar to what I do now, but more if I can get overtime.
By year 3 I will be on around £7000 a year more than my current wage.

This new job will involve me being out overnight quite often.
My cat has never been left on her own overnight.
If I'm ever home late she seems stressed.
We are both very much creatures of habit.

Is it worth me going for this job or not?

Of I do, how do i make it easier for Annie to accept and how do I make myself able to hide my anxiety at a new situation?

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Do it! it has to be better than your current situation.

Is there anyone who could take care of Annie while youre not there?

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Nix wrote:
Do it! it has to be better than your current situation.

Is there anyone who could take care of Annie while youre not there?

She doesn't like people.

I don't really have any friends so can't leave her with anyone.

I do desperately need a new job, but this one will be very hard on her.

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First - the last thing that should determine your livelihood is a pet...

Secondly, as you have examined all the rhetoric to get the job, is it worth it to you?

Can you financially survive the first year on less?

Considering the second year is the same as where you are now at, can you endure to the third year (where it finally pays off)?

If you make it to the third year and choose to carry on for longer can YOU (not your cat) handle the over-nighters?

If it all seems worth it...get your cat a friend and do it.

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First - the last thing that should determine your livelihood is a pet...

Secondly, as you have examined all the rhetoric to get the job, is it worth it to you?

Can you financially survive the first year on less?

Considering the second year is the same as where you are now at, can you endure to the third year (where it finally pays off)?

If you make it to the third year and choose to carry on for longer can YOU (not your cat) handle the over-nighters?

If it all seems worth it...get your cat a friend and do it.

You clearly don't appreciate the relationship between me and my cat.
We are all each other have.

I am not sure if I can survive the lower pay, but my current employment is on borrowed time, and when I lose that job the only job o will be able to get quickly will be minimum wage and I can't even close to survive on that.

I will be able to survive the nights as in total the standard hrs I will work per week wiĺ be less than the 62 - 74 hrs I currently do per week.

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If your current job is set to expire then I would start orentating myself for the other job.

As for the bond you share with your cat, I DO understand but humans rule.

My first dog was a minature sheltie puppy. My mother got him for me when I was five-years-old. He died when I was 19.
25 years later, he still comes to me in my dreams - true. More than my parents.

Meanwhile, adopting another cat (perhaps a kitten) can help your cat cope with your absence. But, cats adapt pretty well and are usually independent enough to handle change.

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My advice? Keep looking.

There are too many ifs in the scenario you presented. The one thing I didn't see you mention: life. Absolutely zero room to fit what skips and bumps life will throw at you. Your health. Annie's health. Meeting deadlines while other concerns loom in the back of your mind. I believe you could do the job, but right now it does not seem the best choice at this time.

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I have found out that "long commutes" will kill you. You would need to move to that new job location.

Cats are amazingly resilient creatures. They can be left overnight--unlike a dog--and be quite comfortable as long as they have the necessities.

I wouldn't take the new job unless I was committed to a move. You would need someone reliable to look after your cat, and she would not like being isolated for four days at a time. I fully understand about the relationships between cats and people!

And when are we going to stop penalizing people for going to counseling or a therapist? Frankly, it's none of an employer's business, in the first place!

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nothing wrong with applying and seeing how it goes. youre clearly unhappy where you are now and if this job sounds like a good 5year plan for you which is always handy. as for the 4months training i would say look for an Air bnb as you may be able to come to an arrangement with someone which makes it A, more affordable and B, kitty cat friendly!

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Sherlock wrote:
I have found out that "long commutes" will kill you. You would need to move to that new job location.

Cats are amazingly resilient creatures. They can be left overnight--unlike a dog--and be quite comfortable as long as they have the necessities.

I wouldn't take the new job unless I was committed to a move. You would need someone reliable to look after your cat, and she would not like being isolated for four days at a time. I fully understand about the relationships between cats and people!

And when are we going to stop penalizing people for going to counseling or a therapist? Frankly, it's none of an employer's business, in the first place!

As I understood it Sherlock, only the 4 month training is of a distance she would need a hotel or pet-friendly living space.

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As I understood it Sherlock, only the 4 month training is of a distance she would need a hotel or pet-friendly living space.

That's a lot better--but, of course, it can be very difficult to shell out money for temporary quarters, while maintaining permanent ones elsewhere.

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During the weeks of the training the employer is footing the bill for the period of layover. Joe would probably have to pay for the other 2 days, Saturday & Sunday. Difficult to do plus still make mortgage/rent payment on her current living quarters on less money.

And then after the 4 months, still no guarantee she would be offered the job. Depends solely on employers decisions, number of positions available, and number that successfully complete the training.

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My analysis: too iffy.

I turned down a similar arrangement years ago.

They need to do better than a "maybe."

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Aww, I would look after Annie for you but I dont think George would allow it. Adaptil diffusers can help Annie with her anxiety, and how about bach rememdy for yours?

If your anxiety is so bad are you sure its the job for you? I know how you feel on that score, i desperately want to start training but anxiety is holding me back. therapy is really helping though.

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soco wrote:
My advice? Keep looking.

There are too many ifs in the scenario you presented. The one thing I didn't see you mention: life. Absolutely zero room to fit what skips and bumps life will throw at you. Your health. Annie's health. Meeting deadlines while other concerns loom in the back of your mind. I believe you could do the job, but right now it does not seem the best choice at this time.

This is true.
Most jobs suck, it's the back end or off time that you should change as well:)
Best wishes!

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I once had a job offer where I would have been required to quit my job at the time, go through a training period, and then maybe not be selected.

I told them, "Good luck with THAT--no thinking person is going to give up a solid job for a 'maybe.'"

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@BuckingFastard(JN)
And the verdict was....? (:drum roll please:)

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And the verdict was....? (:drum roll please:)

There isn't a verdict yet.

I can't think straight, which is why I wanted to spend longer before making a decision.

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