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My landlord is a cripple and he is asking favors.I honestly dont want to be his care giver.

What do you guys think.

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Geeze Robbie.
Being a caretaker is both a great feeling, but also a big burden at times.
I don't know your landlord, so it is hard to say.
If you are uncomfortable with the idea, just tell her/him so.
You've got a life to live too.
Maybe some recommendations for them about daycare.
Good luck.

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many apologies...I thought that I was in my shouts...lol...**doink**
Sorry to the anon poster as well...:/

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We really have to stop meeting like this. You win cara I am anonymous. I guess were spiritually connected.

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Btw. I COVERED GUNS AND ROSES. WOULD YOU LIKE A MUSIC VIDEO. IT WILL BE OUT NEXT WEEK. NOT SURE IF YOU LIKE GUNS AND ROSES

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LOL...:D :D 😄
Yep. We are connected....

YES I LOVE GUNS AND ROSES!! I do a mean cover of Welcome to the Jungle...
LOVE it...

Yes...please send video!! YAYYYYYY!

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Ill trade you..

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Ill send you sweet child of mine for welcome to the jungle.

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LOL...I could try to make a video....but then I'd be tumbling and stumbling and trying extra hard not to foul it up....^_^

Maybe my Ipod would handle it ok....

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Ohhhh Sweet Child of Mine......aw, now I have to hear it!
Or November Rain....
sweeeeeeet!!

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Jumping from my piano to my strings.....gotta try!!

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No worries. I am celebrating making it to a 3 octave singing range today. I have been singing now 6 months. When i first started i could barely sing in tune. So the videos I sent you was when i started. My friends didnt think i could do it. They were not very supportive.now iI am covering white snake. Long long hours practicing.

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It's really difficult trying to cover Axl's voice since I am a GIRL...lol
But congratulations on the 3 octave range!
Easy does it, Robbie!

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Everybody performs favors, but it's your landlord. An agreement is in order and you must be careful not to piss him off and harm your living arrangements. Tell him that and he should understand that a favor or good turn works until the other person doesn't want to do it anymore.

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Who was it that did his bidding before you came along?

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He needs a home care worker. Hes using his tennets to do his dirty work. Thats not fair.

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How many tenants we talking,,,?
Can you organize a few of them together to discuss this?

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2 tenents. I feel bad hes disabled but I have my own life and if he wants to pay me that is different. He is getting in the habit of using me.

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Also, what exactly is this 'dirty work's? If it takes more of your time than is necessary you should be compensated.

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Dirty. Chores because he cant do it himself

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Mop floor . Put rugs in washing machine. Get mail. Accompany hime to store because he may fall. Etc

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I would draw the line at doing his laundry.

But I'm guessing that is not it.

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Was this a part of your lease agreement?

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No..

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What do you think might happen if you said no?

Or, 'I can't right now because of personal obligations but how about this Thursday...?'

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As for retrieving the mail can you get his at the same time you pick up yours? That does not put you out too much I wouldn't think. You might need an extra key or whatever you use to access it.

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Ok. But listening to his problems depresses me. I am an empath. I think Im going to talk to him

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Good idea.

Bring some weed

LOL!

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A landlord shouldn't really ask you to do anything without taking money off your rent.

He tells you his problems so you know how bad off he is and will continue to help him.

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Exactly pepper

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Well, there's nothing wrong with helping a fellow human....even to the point of some self sacrifice. In fact, I think there is too little helping/connecting with our fellow humans.


Having said that, it seems like you have really done your part in helping him. Maybe you can remind him that you have things to do too and tell him you will be avail at certain yime periods....ex: Tuesday afternoons. And if he needs more hours of help, you can use a little help with groceries or something....

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I did my part

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I agree that you did. Now maybe he can help oit with groceries or just some cash. Or you should tell him you cant help

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:)

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Before talking to your landlord, walk a mile in his moccasins. Imagine what it would be like to be old and disabled, with no family around to help you.

Not saying you should be a slave--just saying to think what it would be like to trade places with him.

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Sherlock. Thanks. I already did concider his situation and that is why i did free work for him for 3 months. He should have compensated me something.Not even a thank you. Today he told me in. An aggressive tone that the floors need to be moped over because I didnt do the job correctly. I set him straight and told him i got my own life and he needs a home health worker.
. So hhe now knows the free labor is over. Hh

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yes

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Great move there, Anon!! KUDOS!!
Some people simply feel "entitled" to everything they get.
No thanks??? That is really crappy.
Yep....you did exactly right here, hon....EXACTLY....
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Anonymous wrote:
Sherlock. Thanks. I already did concider his situation and that is why i did free work for him for 3 months. He should have compensated me something.Not even a thank you. Today he told me in. An aggressive tone that the floors need to be moped over because I didnt do the job correctly. I set him straight and told him i got my own life and he needs a home health worker.
. So hhe now knows the free labor is over. Hh

You did a lot to help him out. He should have shown his appreciation. He didn't though, and you moved on from that situation, which is great. He had no right to talk to you in a snotty or aggressive tone of voice when you did nothing but help him

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I wholeheartedly agree with @PepperJ.
I still would suggest though that this particular incident not dampen your resolve to help others, be they disabled or not. One bad apple should have little effect on the ones still in the orchard.

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soco wrote:
I wholeheartedly agree with @PepperJ.
I still would suggest though that this particular incident not dampen your resolve to help others, be they disabled or not. One bad apple should have little effect on the ones still in the orchard.

This is great!!

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Confucius said, "It is better to be taken advantage of from time to time, than to come down on the wrong side of God's mercy."

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soco wrote:
I wholeheartedly agree with @PepperJ.
I still would suggest though that this particular incident not dampen your resolve to help others, be they disabled or not. One bad apple should have little effect on the ones still in the orchard.

Sherlock wrote:
Confucius said, "It is better to be taken advantage of from time to time, than to come down on the wrong side of God's mercy."

Agree!

I think we are all "helpers" on here who probably tend to get taken advantage of more often than we would care to admit.

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Happens to good people:)

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