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Suicide.

Watching Coronation Street tackle the issue of suicide. And everyone left behind is questioning why didnt Aiden talk to people.

And i find myself in the same situation. I tried to reach out to my cousin a few years ago and got a complete brush off.

In the past I have tried to talk to parents, the only people I actually have, and they brush me off too.

They have always made me feel like my problems are insignificant, or like to tell me what I need to do. 'Finish your coursework' 'join some clubs' ect.

Thats not helpful. TBH I dont know what is helpful. but being told what to do, what i should do makes me feel worse.

This past week i have been talking about joining the gym. And all i got is negative feedback. 'you cant afford it' 'you have weights already' 'why are you wasting money'

i feel worse than ever before, i feel i have nothing left. im burnt out. im done. i cant get out of the hole.

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if you have the money to join a gym and want too, then join a gym its no ones business but yours.

โ€œDOING AS OTHERS TOLD ME, I WAS BLIND. COMING WHEN OTHERS CALLED ME, I WAS LOST. THEN I LEFT EVERYONE, MYSELF AS WELL. THEN I FOUND EVERYONE, MYSELF AS WELL.โ€ ~ RUMI

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I joined a gym few months ago. It is a bit spendy but I think it is worth it and now I wish I joined earlier. It gets me out of the house and into a routine. I'm not a social person, so don't really talk to anyone at the gym. But I still have few minor social interactions which is better than nothing at all. I'm starting to feel more at home there. Sleeping better at night also.

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I've always wanted to join the gym!

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Having friends to talk to whenever helps. We listen well.

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What is the point of your post? You don't want to be told what to do but you are asking... I am confused.

And just as a reference point, 99% of your problems are insignificant. This is the case with everyone. The sooner you can sink that into your head the sooner you will learn how to make your life happy.

You are the one that controls your reactions to other people. So, even if you think you are spending your life simply reacting and not actually acting, you are still in control. 100% of our lives is our own fault.

If you think the gym is a good place to make new friends with similar mindsets to what you want to have, you control whether or not you go there. Don't look for validation from others for a choice you have already made.

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Stop looking for approval for your actions. The first person you need to please is yourself. As long as you are not hurting or screwing over others, do what you want to do. There would be no famous artists or writers or scientists if they had all waited for approval from others!

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I have to wait for approval, i still live with my parents and i cant do anything while im here. yeah i know move out etc. its hard on my own. i dont have the money to do it.

i wrote this while having a panic attack. it doesnt make much sense. i feel better now, but still hopelessly trapped

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It seems like eternity now, but it will soon be a distant memory.

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Oh, glad to read you feel better! It is not easy to live with peopel who don't support us or critisize us. It gets us down, our self-esteem gets low, and we start doubting ourselves..

It might be a while before you are able to move out. Is it possible to talk to your parents that you don't feel supported? Indeed, they should have payed more attention to you talking about suicide. But, on the other hand, it is not easy to listen to those things, and know what to say or do.

I hope that you will find a positive way forward. Try a gym just for a trial period. Many offer these options. Hope it works out for you and you will feel better. All the best xx

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Pick 5 people that you know and admire. Do everything you can to be around them as much as possible.

Pick 5 people you know and do not ever want to be like. Do what ever you can to not be around them as much as possible. Cut them out of your life as completely as you can. And remember that this means no arguing with them either... That's time spent with them! Reduce it by just getting out of the conversation ASAP!

This will have a dramatic impact on your life in 3 months if you can maintain it!

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