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Read the answers to the rest of the questions... And come ask me in person. I prefer getting to know people over just reading about them.

Where did you grow up?

USA

Where do you live now?

China

What is the highest level of education you have attained?

Ph.D. from The School of Hard Knocks

What subjects did/do you enjoy most at school?

English and Physics

What's your favorite sport or sports?

Hiking, Camping, Backpacking, Fencing

What kind of jobs have you held? Industries too!

Airline Ground Manager, everything restaurant, SAR (Search And Rescue), Project Manager, Teacher, Corporate Consultant, Company CEO

What hobbies are you into?

Starting companies, playing with my kids, the sports section above... Oh, and fun with physics.

What causes are you concerned about today?

The mentality of people... The locus of control for most people is moving outside instead of inside and this is causing a lot of problems.

If you claim a political party affiliation, which is it?

Capitalist

Which religion (if any) do you follow?

I follow a Taoist Philosophy on life but, I do not claim any religion. I have faith in people. Not their imaginary constructs.

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A Self Introduction

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Good morning world. I am not the typical poster for this site... I respond to posts more than I post by a lot. I am Sully. AKA Old Wolf from the old site. Cool to see this up again.

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I got Married year before.

Path of least effort seems to apply here... How long would the argument last for you to win and the party to not happen? How long will the party last?

This type of analysis helps you to really look at your life and decide what is worth the effort of changing.

That was for the party specifically. Now for the marriage as a whole.

Love is a ONE WAY STREET! You can not expect another to sacrifice XYZ for you because you are sacrificing ABC. Why? Simple. What value do you put on the things you are sacrificing? What value does your spouse put on those same things? These are not equal values. They are subjective to the individual and its a non exchangeable currency.

Love is not an emotion. Love is directly measurable on a case by case basis. Love is simply the measure of what you will give up to keep her in your life.

If you won't give up Friday nights at the bar for her, that's fine! It may end the relationship but that would be better for you. If it doesn't end the relationship it's because she loves you enough to sacrifice the Friday nights together to give you that social time you need.

With the above example, for that particular instance she loves you more than you love her. During the party you are not enjoying, you are the one loving more than she.

The point isn't to compare. The point is that if you don't love her enough to "suffer" a condition AND she doesn't love you enough to "suffer" not having that condition, the relationship is going to end. If you are OK with that, then let it end.

If you really want her in your life for the rest of your life, then figure out what its worth to you and make that clear and CONSISTENT! Constantly changing your mind on whats OK and whats not makes you impossible to get along with... (Not blaming you for doing that, just pointing it out as a warning.) Same goes for kids. Keep the rules of your relationships simple and consistent and no one will be second guessing or assuming anything.

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I need to forget about a guy..

Itemize the list of things to give up. Add a big slash OR slash and his name on the other side. Look at that every day.

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Iโ€™m scared.

Your fight/flight response lasts about 3 seconds. After that its a choice and a habit forming one at that. Get into the habit of choosing to step forward instead of back.

That's not an easy suggestion to follow... It's rather hard in fact. A lot of things in life are hard at first. It would be really awesome if we had perfect memory from birth! Remembering all the pain we went through just learning to walk, run, jump, ride etc. would go a long way in reminding us that worthwhile things take effort and pain over time to learn well enough that they are truly fun and enjoyable!

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Suicide.

Pick 5 people that you know and admire. Do everything you can to be around them as much as possible.

Pick 5 people you know and do not ever want to be like. Do what ever you can to not be around them as much as possible. Cut them out of your life as completely as you can. And remember that this means no arguing with them either... That's time spent with them! Reduce it by just getting out of the conversation ASAP!

This will have a dramatic impact on your life in 3 months if you can maintain it!

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I need to forget about a guy..

Love is not an emotion. Like is. Lust certainly is.

Love is the measure of what you are willing to sacrifice to keep someone in your life. Or even to keep them in your moment right at that moment. There are times when we love our book/TV show/game/night out with friends/food more than our significant others... That's OK!

Love is also a one way street. It isn't what they are willing to sacrifice to stay with you... Only what you are willing to sacrifice to stay with them. There love for you IS INDEPENDENT and SEPARATE from your love for them! Don't get into the argument of what you give up for them and comparing that to what they give up for you! The values are all subjective and coffee may have a much greater/lesser significance to them than it does to you.

So, look at that guy and think about what you like about him and ask yourself, is it worth the sacrifice to keep him in my life? What do I really need to give up to have this work? List those things. If you are not willing to loose them... There is your answer.

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