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I don’t know what to do anymore.

I am exhausted and sad all the time. When I’m at work all I want to do is hide under my desk. Things I use to dream of like marriage, kids, and a home repulse me now. I just want to be left alone and hide from the world. I have tried therapy, medication, exercise, putting myself out there, and treating myself and I still find my self losing hope that life is worth it. Does anyone have any suggestions of things that have helped you?

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Depression is hard.

Do you spend any time with friends?

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smiley wrote:
Depression is hard.

Do you spend any time with friends?

I had a suicidal episode in May and I pushed all my friends away. Now I move away from them and have had trouble making new ones

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Depression is hard.

Do you spend any time with friends?

I had a suicidal episode in May and I pushed all my friends away. Now I move away from them and have had trouble making new ones

I'm so sorry, that makes it even harder. And making friends as an adult is damn near impossible too. People are so set in their ways and standoffish.

I'd invite you to my place for a cup of tea, but I suspect it's a long drive.

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Thanks Smiley. I feel like I am trying to do things to make me feel better but it’s not working. I’ve been at this since 2016 with medication and therapy and I just want to give up. So in May I tried to change my outlook on like and learn to love myself- and I do. But I still feel sad

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sometimes in life we have to go through heartbreak and hopelessness to realize that life is about going through all those things and more to make us embrace who we are even though who we are might not be what we want. its all we have and sooner or later you'll look back and realize it wasnt that bad and youre a better person for having gone through it.

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Having a person to talk to makes all the difference. It just takes one.

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When your dreams are broken, make new dreams - specifically ones that you can attain.
As for your job, if you don't like it, start looking for one that you can enjoy, rather than worry about how much it pays.
Need new friends? Go to church or join a club or do some volunteer work. Or, just log-in here at Help!

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I still think therapy is the best way to go. You just need to find the right one. Don't judge them all just because one barrel had one bad one in it. Perhaps try one that is of the opposite gender.
Don't forget too, you have lots of friends here that you can rely on though our hours vary.

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I still think therapy is the best way to go. You just need to find the right one. Don't judge them all just because one barrel had one bad one in it. Perhaps try one that is of the opposite gender.
Don't forget too, you have lots of friends here that you can rely on though our hours vary.

I’m scared to try therapy again bc talking about my trauma gives me panic attacks. I want to go back and try therapy again but I am just not ready for that yet.

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Do you think the panic attacks happen because you have not worked through the trauma? If so that is where to start. You cannot suppress it away by not talking about it. If one on one face to face therapy is not doable, maybe try Dr.'s on Demand. You can talk with a licensed professional without actually meeting face to face. The cost is also extremely reasonable.

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soco wrote:
Do you think the panic attacks happen because you have not worked through the trauma? If so that is where to start. You cannot suppress it away by not talking about it. If one on one face to face therapy is not doable, maybe try Dr.'s on Demand. You can talk with a licensed professional without actually meeting face to face. The cost is also extremely reasonable.

You’re 100% right. I haven’t worked through it. My past haunts me. And I know at some point I need to face it a work through it but I think it will get a lot worse (me talking about it) before it will get better. I am moving soon and I think once I am settled in I will search for a female therapist near my new place.

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I would also recommend that you find a support group that meets locally. The Marino Foundation might help too. Several others also. Do a little research to see what is available nearby. You are not alone. Nor should you feel that you need to suffer through this by yourself. Make some calls. Send emails. Be determined in fighting for your well being.

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These guys all said great things. My one little thing besides trying to exercise consistently, which really helps me, is I try to be nice to myself. I try to love myself, and even trying generates more self compassion and respect.

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i know sometimes i sound like a true debby downer but i try and not gloss over life too much, but here is my favorite idk what you call it, poem seems too sweet.

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GO PLACIDLY amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

By Max Ehrmann © 1927

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great help and advice out there, all of it makes sense.. would give some input but im speechless here.

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Thanks everyone. Today my sister admitted herself in for psychiatric care due to her anxiety and depression. Me and my sister aren’t on good terms bc she kicked me out of our apartment a few months ago. I don’t know how I should react. I told her I am there for her (but it makes me mad that she isn’t there for me when I am going through the same thing). I feel discouraged

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Pet therapy. My pets help me.

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Nevermind wrote:
Pet therapy. My pets help me.

pets are just slaves we imprison for our own benefit

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Jebus-Zeus wrote:

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Pet therapy. My pets help me.

pets are just slaves we imprison for our own benefit

I volunteer at an animal shelter and it is the highlight of my week. No matter what shitty situation they come from they are so willing to show you they love you

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I can offer you help but it wont be easy and you probably will resent me for it .
If your up for a transformation of your lifw for the positive and would be wiling to work hard and make major changes. Give me a shout

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aeolians.revenge wrote:
I can offer you help but it wont be easy and you probably will resent me for it .
If your up for a transformation of your lifw for the positive and would be wiling to work hard and make major changes. Give me a shout

I think I am confident and happy with who I am (it took be a hard road to get to this point) but I think that situations around me or from my past haunt me. I’m open to any advice

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What.. your posts suggests different than your response.
Im confused. The post suggests you are a mess. Your latest response contradicts that.

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aeolians.revenge wrote:
What.. your posts suggests different than your response.
Im confused. The post suggests you are a mess. Your latest response contradicts that.

I am happy with myself but I still feel sad all the time. It is the world the makes me feel hopeless and that I can do anything to change it. Just be I am accepting who I am now doesn’t make be regret everything I’ve done in the past or more so what was done to me. It’s hard for me to explain which is why it’s hard for me to figure out how to fix it

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