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My roomate is crazy.

Anonymous wrote:
This is the response of the landlord.........."Going forward, keep your cat in your room.
Stay out of everyone else's space.
Kitchen is off limits when anyone else is cooking. If you should cook, provide your own dishes, etc.. Stay out of everyone else's cabinets.
I would appreciate it from now on that you just worry about yourself. It is none of your business who pays what. No more confrontations. Stay away from my friends from now on.
Also, remember if the bathroom door is closed and the light is on, do not touch the door. Make sure that you turn everything off when you leave the house.
You are paid through December 31, 2019.
Just reiterating our conversation.
Marty

Are all of these "rules" in a written contract? If not, he can't enforce them now unless he writes them up and YOU sign them

I would counter with the bathroom thing about putting a lock on the door and informing everyone in the house that they should lock the bathroom door, just because people blindly stumble into a bathroom sometimes.

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My roomate is crazy.

PepperJ wrote:
I've had room mates off and on through the years. Mostly, having room mates is a blessing. Sometimes, it really sucks.

Currently, we've had room mates pretty much non stop for 3 years.

To answer your questions directly:
1. When renting a room in a person's primary residence, Fair Housing Act does not apply. The landlord (home owner/person who you live WITH) can discriminate any way they want to.
2. Once you are in the home, however, you CANNOT be kicked out for no reason, unless you are renting month to month. Even then, you have to be given a 30 day notice in most states
3. Do you have a contract? It's important to have rules and regs in writing...really important
4. Do you know if you are "month to month" or if you have signed a lease with a specific term?
5. The biggest thing to know is that each state has its own laws around room mates....as does EACH municipality. For instance, Fort Collins, north of Denver, allows room mates on a U+2 basis (You and any of your blood relatives + 2 unrelated people....but then bedrooms play a part. There can't be more than 2 ppl per bedroom....and in many municipalities, they will count a living room as "bedroom space" for "counting people..." in other words, a 3 bedroom house can have 8 people (living room counts too, for some reason...this is new in this area). In some municipalities, you cannot evict between November and March, even for non payment of rent

The bottom line, with renters' rights, is that it varies GREATLY state by state. It also varies within each municipality

Finally,

I do have a "room mate" who doesn't pay much rent (she pays $100/month) and it's because I took her in a few months ago because she was in a bad situation. She is the one not paying rent and having the LL "wrapped around her finger...." (sorta). However, if she EVER harassed or made life miserable for one of the paying tenants, she would be in big, big trouble....

So...yeah. I was putting the LL thing in there to let you know I have experience in the things you are talking about. I've rented TO room mates/room mate situations.

Followed up with the times I've HAD room mates. Laws. Things that can and can't go wrong

I HAVE a room mate who pays. I ALSO HAVE a room mate who DOESN'T pay. I can see your situation clearly as a result.

I also asked if you had a lease or if you were on a month to month or verbal type of agreement. All of that matters. If it's verbal...move out. Find another place. If you signed paperwork, that matters....I know the law inside and out in Colorado. It varies state by state. As I stated.

If you are in a state other than CO., and you have signed a lease or any sort of paperwork, you need to review your paperwork to determine your rights.

Yep. I know you have a room mate situation. I answered to that specific issue....also in telling you that YOUR SITUATION will vary depending on whether or not you signed a lease. Even if you DID sign a lease, I could give you advice on that.

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My roomate is crazy.

*also....having 10 people living in my house...walking in on someone once in a while is a thing that's going to happen with so many people. Locking doors on bathrooms will prevent that

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My roomate is crazy.

I'm a landlord. I have two rooms that I rent out in my basement. I also have single family homes that I rent out. Rents here are crazy (Colorado)...a ROOM in a basement will go for over $600/month...more the closer you get to Denver, Boulder, Colo Springs, mountains. I've had room mates off and on through the years. Mostly, having room mates is a blessing. Sometimes, it really sucks.

Currently, we've had room mates pretty much non stop for 3 years.

To answer your questions directly:
1. When renting a room in a person's primary residence, Fair Housing Act does not apply. The landlord (home owner/person who you live WITH) can discriminate any way they want to.
2. Once you are in the home, however, you CANNOT be kicked out for no reason, unless you are renting month to month. Even then, you have to be given a 30 day notice in most states
3. Do you have a contract? It's important to have rules and regs in writing...really important
4. Do you know if you are "month to month" or if you have signed a lease with a specific term?
5. The biggest thing to know is that each state has its own laws around room mates....as does EACH municipality. For instance, Fort Collins, north of Denver, allows room mates on a U+2 basis (You and any of your blood relatives + 2 unrelated people....but then bedrooms play a part. There can't be more than 2 ppl per bedroom....and in many municipalities, they will count a living room as "bedroom space" for "counting people..." in other words, a 3 bedroom house can have 8 people (living room counts too, for some reason...this is new in this area). In some municipalities, you cannot evict between November and March, even for non payment of rent

The bottom line, with renters' rights, is that it varies GREATLY state by state. It also varies within each municipality

Finally,

I do have a "room mate" who doesn't pay much rent (she pays $100/month) and it's because I took her in a few months ago because she was in a bad situation. She is the one not paying rent and having the LL "wrapped around her finger...." (sorta). However, if she EVER harassed or made life miserable for one of the paying tenants, she would be in big, big trouble....

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Do men care what women wear when they approach women?

aeolians.revenge wrote:
Men dont care what job she has. What cloths she wears.
All a women has to do to be in a relationship is to be a women.
Having said that you will be narrowing your available men if you have tatoos.

Really?

Tattoos only? Or weird piercings and crazy dyed hair also?

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Do men care what women wear when they approach women?

We brought a young lady into our home a few months ago. I love her. But she dresses very provacatively.

She's had ***sex with numerous people. She used to spend some time wondering why guys only wanted her for one thing....

IDK if it's all her clothes, though:
1. She is beautiful
2. She is bubbly and funny
3. She is hurt and fragile (I think "Certain types of guys" pick up on that)

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What do I do?

I say go for it.

Age is just a number; and the years you have in difference are not that great

My bff married a guy 7 years younger than her. I think they have been married 16 years now...? Maybe 17

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What funny things did you do as a child?

Yorick wrote:

PepperJ wrote:
I had a boss who I really despised (later found out that she would steal from my till and accuse me of doing it...she actually got caught doing that, but not by anyone who mattered...ugh)

The sad thing is that we had been friends and then I lived in a spare room with her and her husb for a few months, and discovered a lot of domestic violence. I moved out, which pissed them off (loss of income/fear of me "telling people," I guess...?)

So, when she just kept bitching at me at work, I went to a sporting goods store and got skunk piss...a liquid that hides the scent of hunters in the woods. I poured the whole bottle into the radiator(?) (IDK...grill thing on the outside) and also into the vents on the inside.

For MONTHS, she would come to work and wonder why her car smelled so bad. She and hubby cleaned it out and took it to the car wash constantly, trying to figure out why it stunk so bad
****Edited to add: this was when I was 18/19

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lol i heard a similar story like this from another friend once.. with mechanic exp.. h e would put raw shrimp in the hub caps of their cars.. if they had one.. or drop them in the vent intake in front of the car. lol. tho i never did anything like that.. im a big softie .. with a violent imagination when people piss me off.

ooohhhh....brilliant idea, Yorick, thanks ;)

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My significant other refuses to see a doctor.

Maybe she can go in for an exam that doesn't involve anything invasive and just "get to know" a doc or two. Schedule appointments to speak with them and find out how they work. Some docs like to "play God" while others are very down to earth and let the patient lead the treatment plan, if there is one.

It would be better to find a doc who she can connect with while there is nothing wrong with her so that she doesn't have to go through finding one, and potentially settling for one who she hates because of time constraints, if she ever does need one.

Also, if you have "buy sell sites" on fb for your city, it's a great way to post and ask people which docs they like in the area. People will be upfront and usually talk about why they love or hate their docs...that would give her a few names to start with

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The sterotypical millenial is annoying as h ell.

I'd love to go on a cruise, but my family likes other types of vacations better. An example would be that when we are near the ocean, IF my husb gets in the water, he only goes in shin deep. He would hate a cruise...lol.

I've heard that they are cool. I've heard that it is the ultimate vacation venue for relaxing and pampering yourself. I have a friend who goes on cruises every now and then.

And I guess he's a boomer. I'm an X. I guess our kids are post millennials, and I think they are great people. (NOT just bc I'm their mom)

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