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It sure is a scary time!

jj01 wrote:
There is probably several good reasons why people shouldn't entertain workplace romances. ...Maybe your company is recording interactions to also have proof when an accusation is true?

Either way, I don't like it when anyone, male or female is a victim of someone else's bad behavior, but I doubt there are as many false claims of sexual assault as there are real ones. What should a real ****rape victim do, keep it to herself, so as not to hurt anyone's feelings?

Are you deliberately missing the point?

I'm not talking about romances, coaching a female colleague can already get you in trouble if it's not recorded. She just has to make up any charge and you're done for.

Real ****rape victims should go to the police, and not tweet their hashtags on Twitter like a vengeful banshee.

Also, roughly 80% of harassment accusations in my country were fabrications. And I'm willing to go as far as to say 50% of all "rapes" here never actually happened.

Edit: and then there's this c*nt https://youtu.be/1TzTCWfiRew (and these cases are becoming more common).

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It sure is a scary time!

smiley wrote:
People, especially men, have forgotten social skills, like dignity and respect.

Most haven't though, really.

It's just that being kind is met with either caution or hostility. And eventually you stop trying.

Let's take a classic example, wishing one another a good day or keeping a door open if you see someone approaching.

The amount of times I've been accused to sexism, harassment or being "problematic" for holding a door open in the past two years could fill a small novel. Thus I still keep the door open, I still wish people a good day.

But only if that someone is another man. Safer that way.

Edit: If I hold the door I don't want to date you, a "thank you" would already make my day. But I see you've already twisted the intention to the negative. Which is kinda sad.

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It sure is a scary time!

jj01 wrote:

Anything other than a "yes" is always a "no". When men follow that simple rule, they have nothing to fear. If a woman wants more than a "date", she'll definitely let a guy know it.

Two issues, first of: power balance, in office we have to make certain every interaction is recorded on video now. For the simple reason that false accusing a colleague of intimidation with the motive to get this colleague fired and/or take his job is a real thing that more than a few women are guilty of. As a rule we see many companies either hiring less women or no women at all. (Risks/costs is something you try to avoid and #metoo is both.)

Secondly: A yes might turn into a no 2/3/4 weeks down the road. We've all had sexual encounters we weren't satisfied with. As a man you call this a mistake, as a woman this gives you a chance to ruin a life as evidence has become optional. Even if there is no conviction, cases can drag on for months and all the costs will be enough to bankrupt "your victim of choice". (And added, my country is working on a law where you can state you revert your consent: turning any sexual encounter you ever had into a ****rape case at will.)

As a result, I come back to my hornets nest reference. Why risk getting involved with women at all? If the risks outweigh any possible rewards. As lately it seems no good deed goes unpunished.

Apparently saying "good morning" is already harassment. So to be honest, I understand the fear. Men have lots to lose, and little to gain.

I agree that ****rape is horrible, and rapists should be punished if not cut from society altogether.

But the problem is, women are now handed great power with zero responsibility over it. The law almost seems to assume women never lie...

Also where do we draw the line, is me being in the same room as a woman harassment? Or me disagreeing with her? Some would say yes to that already, and given any form of harassment can be used as grounds to be fired I'd much rather invest my time in increasing work skills and enjoying passtimes alone. Rather than risk losing my income and actual freedom over a misunderstanding.

Till men and women are legally equal also in responsibility and family court, I'm inclined to be cautious.

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It sure is a scary time!

There is an issue going on regarding sexuality and the rights attached to this however.

As a man you are guilty of whatever people blame you for till you're proven innocent. And even then it'll still cost you your job, reputation and possibly friends and family. This makes dating akin to "kicking a hornets nest and praying no ones home".

Which is more stressful than it is rewarding (And by reward I mean the pleasant night out / the dopamine rush from the excitement of meeting new people.) This currently is gone.

Furthermore. I believe if one is afraid to stand behind their words then one shouldn't share them to begin with. (In regards to anonymity)

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Yes.Be Less Stupid!...

He won't be impeached.

A president can stay in office for as long as a country is in a state of war. There's a US fleet underway to Iran. (One of the best armed nations on the planet) there's an arms deal in the works for Saudi Arabia (enemies of Iran, officially allies to the US (Though ironically also the most likely nation to have funded Isis)

My bet is Trump will remain in office till the day he dies. The only questions are, when will this happen and in what manner?

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Advice needed.

Sherlock wrote:
Maybe it is time to talk to a pastor or priest.

I'd sooner burn down a church and crucify a priest than to ever set foot in a church again.

[Edit: Rest of this was redundant]

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Some psycho I know has hacked the computer I'm using and figured out what drives me to homicidal rage and is content on consistently doing things over and over again to screw with me that make me want

Lano wrote:
I mean, if he is, you may actually need to call the police. I don't know anything about hacking either.

Police does nothing against hackers. Hell they barely get off their seats for actual assault...

Does the poster actually know who's behind this? (And I mean be 100% certain) If so I may have some advice, non of it legal however...

For now, get a good anti malware package, good virus scanner, tape off all cameras. Go into your control panel settings and disable access to the microphone for all applications. And if attacks continue, you're better off calling your internet service provider than the police. They may be able to block the hackers current ip (if he's stupid enough not to hide it) or provide you with a new ip, throwing him off for a while at least.

I keep editing this it seems. Also: change your wifi password if you're on wireless as well as any other passwords. Do this AFTER the malware and virus scans. Any decent hacker will have placed a keylogger (application that tracks and sends back all you type) so you want to get rid of that first. Then as stated, change the passwords.

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Advice needed.

Araz wrote:
Iโ€™m assuming you have seen someone given that you have been on medication in the past?

Legion. What do you want? Like, seriously, your life right now - what do you see yourself doing/where do you see yourself being that would be considered โ€œidealโ€? Can you envision any kind of situation or circumstance that would make you happy?

It's been so long since I even had a taste of happiness I don't even know how to answer that question anymore.

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Advice needed.

BIG-AL-ONE wrote:
I was gathering up my advice only to find you deleted the reasons I needed for packing it....
....Sooo, given what is left, I would say kick the booze, get healthy, revise some of your outlook and go on an adventure.

Try to find some happiness.

You have to understand I've been dealing with daily suicidal ideations for over a decade now. Medication has done nothing. Meditation has done nothing, taking a long tip has done nothing. And being in a car to bike accident following a severe concussion (likely minor brain damage) has made it worse. Following two suicide attempts where one has left me with constant pain externally (for the sake of legal reasons i won't state where) and one has left with recurring (thankfully not constant) pain internally. I'm done.

The only reason i'm still here is obligations. Responsibilities to my family (friends have all but left, couldn't deal with the depression and psychosis ("for which i hold no grudges, as i would have likely done the same in their situation")

I honestly wake up certain mornings do my daily "must do's" take a long walk to clear my head, fail, go back to bed. Up to roughly 2 years ago (when my mother passed away) I would put myself in situations where the outcome could be death, the rush from this made me happy. But given her last words to me where "I don't want you to be in pain." before her illness took away her ability to speak i keep this as a vow... almost as if i had sworn her an oath.

No one should be forced to live with a screaming desire to die, yet here i've been for a decade ongoing now.

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ask me anything

NaCtHoMaN wrote:
sigh.. i miss the old days.. sometimes i feel like i really soiled on this help revival.. .. would it help if i left?

Been roaming around some time myself. Debating wether to post something or not. But this page does seem close to dead thus I decided against posting anything thus far.

Honestly I don't believe any one person is the issue in this regard.

-Legion

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