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Feels like they hover over me, waiting for me to fail. Waiting to judge me over something they dont like or agree with.

Asking me 'why dont you talk to us about it?' Like I need permission or praise.

And honestly, it stops me doing everything. I feel like I cant make youtube videos because they will hear me, ask me what I'm doing, and say 'dont post things online'

BTW, I'm an adult :( and I wish to death I could move out.

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My advice? Do it anyway! If it helps you to vent then do it. You owe no one any apologies.

No one.

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Be grateful your parents are alive

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parents ca be a pain, theyre there to worry about you, question thing and i havent met any that arent atleast a little bit over bearing. do your best to work towards moving out i you can! but i agree with Soco! You life to live, they brought you up so ave no one to blame but themselves if they dont like what you do!

Live life, be happy.

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aeolian wrote:
Be grateful your parents are alive

Amen!

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Sometimes we need to read or re-think. Youtube video's feed you? Guilt is a funny thing and makes us react or make us feel bad.

Being an adult is different then acting like one.
Earn, learn and reward. Youtube is rarely income generating unless you're using it to promote your business.

My mother or father have never (and most people my age) ever handed me a dime. It would feel weird. Crap even typing it feels weird.

There's a simple formula. Earn a living, pay for stuff and enjoy.
Someone support your life...wrong. Someone pay for your enjoyment...not lasting.
Read the HR post of Sherlock.

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No the videos probs wonโ€™t make money. Thatโ€™s not why I want to. Itโ€™s a hobby. I have a low paying job. Just not enough to move out

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Most hobbies are stress relievers. If it was not and more like work we probably wouldn't do it.

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My advice. Find a paying job. Work really hard. You cant wish you have to actually do something. Save your money and get your own place and your own life. I dont think this is rocket science. Than you are the one calling the shots

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And there is always the military--helping people leave nutty parents since 800 B.C.!

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Sounds like helicopter parenting. Sometimes parents just want to protect their children so badly that they can become overly critical or bossy.

Now, this next thing I say you might not care for. I think that part of helicopter parenting is enabling your children too. Iโ€™m guessing that your parents donโ€™t charge you rent? Even with the lower paying job, you should be focusing on saving up your money and moving out or contributing to the household.

Your parents arenโ€™t going to be around forever. No one is ever around forever. Treasure the people you have in your life while theyโ€™re around and helping you and donโ€™t take them for granted.

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If your hobby comes before regular duties, it's a crutch. Most people have low paying jobs and if they don't they complain about supporting the ones that do..lol.

Why the Military works for younger adults.
1) A written defined set of rules and responsibilities.
2) A clear action if not complied with. (Jail or extra duties)

Alternative; write a daily work sheet. Example; Monday's you cook dinner and clean up afterwards. Tuesday ...Wednesday...
Try not visiting youtube for two weeks and if you cheat..you're addicted.
Change how and who you discuss career choices with. Reward yourself after each step is completed. Keep some of your steps private so people won't know when you stumble a bit.

Hang and meet new people.

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On another note. Low paying jobs suck for everyone everywhere. It creates a cycle of dependence. Your parents wouldn't hover if you made six figures:)

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lol..why did this post die?

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Ask the OP.

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He didnt like us telling him to get a job i suppose

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I guess because people misunderstood. I have a job, I pay my way, I do chores. This is just about my parents preventing me from doing things I like because of their judgements.

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Nonsense. Your an adult

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Ah, yes, but if you are still in the house, then you are still their "child." They will always think that way as long as you are there.

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lol...do you hear yourself? They don't prevent, they enable.
You're trying to put them down and use them as an excuse as to why you're not in a high paying career. You're next action will be arguing, aggressive, rude, quite and entitlement.

Try this; do a positive 180, get up early and plan a good day.
Make three goals, one for credentials, one for personal hobby other then gaming or tech. and one for entertaining like cooking a meal from start to finish...and ordering pizza doesn't count.

Your position should be to help, service and protect your parents, not trash them.

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aeolian wrote:
Nonsense. Your an adult

I don't mean to sound harsh with you.
I, we have thousands of young adults "exactly" in the same position as you and the governments way of helping them is to put them on meds! Now we have Zombies.
No pain, no gain. Flower children are gone and the chemical heads burn out.

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Max.. you nailed it. I wanted to say the same. If hes an adult he would have his own place and help his parents.

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Old school way were a little whacked, but the new way ain't working. Call out your boss, your doctor or government. Not a mom, dad or everyday person. I had one jerk complaining about "his DNA". Like his parents could control that.
I know what's coming, too bad the sheep don't.

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