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I feel like I’m the girl who never gets the guy.

What do I do? I have watched so many movies where the guy says he never gets the girl, well I feel like I’m the girl who never gets the guy. There have been guys that I have liked but they either don’t want a relationship, they just want to hook up and that’s it, or someone else comes along who they like better. Any advice? I just wish I could find someone who actually liked me for me and who wants a real relationship. I can be quiet at times and probably awkward lol. But I just feel like I’ve had the worst luck when it comes to dating. When will I finally get my chance?

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Ya know how in the movies they always have a guy saying he never gets the girl? Well, I feel like I’m the girl who never gets the guy. What do I do?¬ ¬ I have watched so many movies where the guy says he never gets the girl, well I feel like I’m the girl who never gets the guy. There have been guys that I have liked but they either don’t want a relationship, they just want to hook up and that’s it, or someone else comes along who they like better. Any advice? I have watched so many movies where the guy says he never gets the girl, well I feel like I’m the girl who never gets the guy. There have been guys that I have liked but they either don’t want a relationship, they just want to hook up and that’s it, or someone else comes along who they like better. Any advice? I just wish I could find someone who actually liked me for me and who wants a real relationship. I can be quiet at times and probably awkward lol. But I just feel like I’ve had the worst luck when it comes to dating. When will I finally get my chance?

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The majority of people feel like this at one time or another- has nothing to do with gender.

I read an article recently saying we generally look for mates as people who are 10% more attractive than we are. Now I don't know what scale that's based on, but it's an interesting thought.

Most people struggle to find their life partner. Some people get lucky, some people settle for what they can get, and some people just give up on the whole thing.

My advice? Keep looking. Put yourself out there. Go to social events and local meet ups for unrelated activities. Loads of people to meet there. Maybe you'll run into one where you find a mutual attraction and kick something off?

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I know the feeling, so I sadly don't have much advice for you. My last proper relationship was almost a decade ago, and I'm still a virgin in my 30's, so I still haven't the slightest clue. Lol.

If you do find out the solution though, please share with us no-hopers!

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Truth and honesty is always the best policy.

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Its the same for me. I gave up. The last guy I was interested in said that he wasn't looking for a relationship, a few days later his facebook status changed to in a relationship. I think that broke me for a long time. I wasnt upset, but hurt that he lied. Its put me off relationships forever.

For me the pain and stress never outweighs the good times (i dont think i ever have had any with a guy) or the ***sex. I prefer being with my dogs now, they are awesome.

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I feel the same. But in the end I want someone who wants me. I’m Starting to think that real love is an anomaly. Some advice I was given is don’t force finding love. Focus on things you love and and a partner will follow. I think that this advice will take a long time, but I’m hoping that the end results will pay out

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I would say that exposure to people and being honest is key.

It can be difficult to find someone that one feels it is falling into place with. A relationship also always takes effort to make grow and this takes time and commitment.

There are many people looking for a life partner, so the timing is difficult to estimate.

For my own part i considered myself unworthy of love for the longest time so i waited long to start building experience.
I´m also not interested in just play. I want the whole deal for something permanent. Someone to share experiences with, wake up with and live with to expand and grow more.

Do not hold illusions that it will always be easy either. I dont think love ever is.
I´ve traveled far to try and find it and i have found it as well. Though it did not last forever, its good to make the experiences come to life and to learn from it all. It has given me quite a lot to allow love into my life and it has made me come to realize a lot more about what it means to be human.

So on the whole i keep my door open for it so that i wont resist if the window opens again.

I feel there is a power in the love that is not to be found anywhere else. Does not mean one cannot be fine on ones own, but that there is a difference of sharing things with someone.

Think there is a need for balance as well. We need to be comfortable with who we are as well as comfortable and able to trust another. Experiences can put us off it, but steps with one does not mean its going to be the same with another. It would be unfair to judge all on the basis of the actions of one.

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Anonymous wrote:

I read an article recently saying we generally look for mates as people who are 10% more attractive than we are. Now I don't know what scale that's based on, but it's an interesting thought.

Ouch ;) The guys I've dated/been married to are usually not that attractive in the traditional sense...so that's a bit of an "owie" for me, if it's true.

I did date quite a bit in my life, but it was never the guy I was LOOKING at dating. I'd have my eye on someone...who completely ignored me...and another guy would be sort of in the friend zone, and we would end up dating. In my mid to late 20's, I dated guys who were older than me pretty often. But the guys who were "friends" while I was flirting with someone else, ended up being fun guys to date and we had good relationships.

So...be friends first. That is my advice.

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What are your interests? Join a club that is dedicated to one of your interests. Do some volunteer work. Enroll in a course. Take a role in a play. Attend a church. Believe me, kid, decent women are hard to find. Decent men look for honesty and reliability above physical beauty. You simply have not been moving in the right circles.

Oh . . . you have to let men know you are interested. Too many of us have been burned asking out women who'd rather date Sinbad the Sailor. You know how to do that.

We'll expect a report at the end of next week!

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The type of advice necessary here really depends on age...

I don't know how old you are, but if you're in your early twenties, and you're dating guys you're own age, it's going to be tough to find a guy who wants a serious relationship. And the other problem is...they'll all pretend like that's what they're looking for. They're not. They want to enjoy being single.

Tip: Don't have ***sex with a guy too early. Don't be afraid to wait ten dates. If he likes you for you, he can wait.

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Lano wrote:
The type of advice necessary here really depends on age...

Incorrect, (and trust me on this), it no longer matters the age of a person. There are players at every age level.

Tip: Don't have ***sex with a guy too early. Don't be afraid to wait ten dates. If he likes you for you, he can wait.

I personally would suggest waiting until after marriage. Why? Because, it's a big deal. If you're willing to give it out, there will never be a reason to remain loyal to you.

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I think going out more and finding people to connect with is a positive step. find out whats going on in the community. go to local community halls

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lol you anonymous pic is a swastika

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I think going out more and finding people to connect with is a positive step. find out whats going on in the community. go to local community halls

Great! It will prove very rewarding for you!

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Lano wrote:
The type of advice necessary here really depends on age...

Incorrect, (and trust me on this), it no longer matters the age of a person. There are players at every age level.

Tip: Don't have ***sex with a guy too early. Don't be afraid to wait ten dates. If he likes you for you, he can wait.

I personally would suggest waiting until after marriage. Why? Because, it's a big deal. If you're willing to give it out, there will never be a reason to remain loyal to you.

There are players at every level but if a guy has never been married at 40 and is looki g to smash on the first date thats kind of a red flag for the woman who's trying to settle down while if its a 20 year old maybe you can overlook those hormone infused decisions. Also most twenty year olds are just not ready to settle down as a rule.

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