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ok guys, got some real help needed here

Lol @soco we seem to be agreeing on a lot of things lately. Thatโ€™s nice ๐Ÿ˜Š

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ok guys, got some real help needed here

Do you have a list of specific examples of how youโ€™ve helped the company? In addition to the โ€œIโ€™m doing so-and-soโ€™s work as well as my ownโ€.

I would say though that you seem like you work very hard and youโ€™re invaluable to the company. You did say that they have acknowledged it and that while they cannot double your pay, they offered you a performance review.

Additional advice: itโ€™s hard not to badmouth shitty coworkers but try to refrain from doing it to much bc it just makes you look bad at the end of the day. Even if theyโ€™re lazy, apathetic waste of spaces.

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I suffer from noise anxiety.

Thatโ€™s a very practical suggestion @soco. May I also suggest cheap ear plugs if the headphones are out of your budget? I hope the construction is over soon!

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Why is he like this?

Have you ever heard of this term โ€œneggingโ€?

Definition: Negging is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and increase their need of the manipulator's approval. The term was coined and prescribed by pickup artists.

Itโ€™s a fairly common technique used by younger guys and I really hate it. Iโ€™ve had it used on me and itโ€™s super frustrating. My advice is to not fall for it and focus on people who will lift you up, not people like this guy.

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Wading through a sea of dreams,

This is beautiful @Jetmoo. I agree, you should share your poetry, youโ€™re very talented.

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What does it mean if a gal who is crazy about you all of a sudden gets real distant very quiet and mysterious?

I didnโ€™t realize that things were so serious for you in this relationship. I hope for you that itโ€™s not the case and that she is just busy right now. Donโ€™t just give up on your โ€œsoulmateโ€. Just give it time, focus on living your best life and see where things go from there. We donโ€™t know her, or you for that matter in real life, so who are we to say itโ€™s over? Might not be.

Stay strong and donโ€™t give up!

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What does it mean if a gal who is crazy about you all of a sudden gets real distant very quiet and mysterious?

IMO itโ€™s not a good sign. Youโ€™re in a committed relationship, youโ€™re past the stage of playing games and hard to get. If sheโ€™s distancing herself and itโ€™s out of character, it either means sheโ€™s not interested or she has met someone else.

Lol I think you needed to spell it out though - most people define โ€œdatingโ€ differently from you.

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Why would your boss start being rude to you all of a sudden?

This EXACT thing happened to me once when I worked with all women in a bank. (Except for one man who would retreat into his office when things got... bitchy).

My advice is to get out of there ASAP. You need a healthy balance of different types of people and there was so much drama, pettiness, and bitchiness when I was working with a mostly female staff. Itโ€™s the only time in my life that I didnโ€™t get along with my coworkers.

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if god were real i'd murder him.

This post has a ton of responses and I admit to not reading all of them so I am going to apologize for making you repeat yourself.

BUT youโ€™re assuming a lot of things about me. Iโ€™m actually agnostic and a minority in all things. So Iโ€™m pretty well versed in having to fight for my rights.

I support separation of church and state obviously. Iโ€™m just saying that not all religious people are batshit crazy and that basic philosophy dictates that people will get upset when their beliefs are challenged. Iโ€™m not saying itโ€™s the right thing to do. It is what it is.

I think Iโ€™ve done more harm here than good though so Iโ€™ll leave this post alone.

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if god were real i'd murder him.

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I walk around everyone thinking there's something wrong with me. It's me thinking something is wrong with them. From my point of view, they're mass insanity. Whatever your views on the topic, I am out numbered. If everybody is walking around believing in a very different way than I do there is no love and communion. They are unable to even understand my point of view. It's like trying to talk to people through a wall. You know they're there. But they can't hear you. It is hell to me.

We all have values/beliefs by which we live, operate and structure our lives. When you challenge a fundamental belief like the existence of God or religious faith, youโ€™re forcing that person to question their fundamental beliefs and that is upsetting for most. It actually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

I am wondering why itโ€™s so important for you to have others understand your own fundamental beliefs? Why not just be secure in your own thoughts and mindset and live and let live?

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