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I’ve been off my anxiety medicine for awhile now since I lost my health insurance a few months ago.

I think he feels like it’s an excuse too sometimes. I’m used to pushing aside my stress and anxiety and barreling through it and pretending like everything is fine until I’ve held everything in for so long that I blow up and am told that I’m “being crazy.” I for sure am usually being crazy at that moment but its hard to get off the crazy train for a few hours once I’m on it.

And then I’m back to holding it all in again.

Lano, maybe I’m just crazy. 😕

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I’ve been off my anxiety medicine for awhile now since I lost my health insurance a few months ago.

Lano wrote:
It sounds like the problem is that you need to get on your old medication as soon as possible. It could be that that is the root of all these problems. Not trying to be political here, but you might need yourself some Obamacare, it tied me over for two or three years when I was no longer covered by my parents insurance and before I was getting insurance through my job. I paid NOTHING for it. Check it out.

My girlfriend refused to get it because it was "too expensive" (she's getting insurance through her job now). Yet she dished out the penalty every year when she paid her income tax. Doesn't make sense to me.

I did have Obamacare but I didn’t file my taxes so they took it away 😩 I’m gonna owe so much for 2017. I think I need an accountant at this point, the work I did as a 1099 really added up.

Lano wrote:
You weren't. You're having anxiety. That's a good reason not to go to a party.

I really didn’t think about it that way at all. That does make me feel better. Husband doesn’t have anxiety at all, he’s pretty much the most laid back person ever, so he doesn’t understand it.

Lano wrote:
Depends on the friends. Some friends are easier to talk to and you can vent to them. Some friends are fun friends, you need to just destress by having fun with them, that can sometimes be better than venting.

I feel like all I have are “fun” friends. I really should 😪 I do have people still reach out often trying to hang out. I have to start making myself do it.

Lano wrote:
I find that feeling attractive is a need that most women have. It's biological. Your husband has to help you with that by grabbing your butt and kissing you and telling you you're beautiful.

I lucked out in my partner. He does this constantly even when I look awful. I truly believe that no matter how much weight I gained or lost, he would love me and think I was pretty. I think the problem is that I don’t feel that way about myself. I know I need to buckle down and just go to the gym and eat healthier and buy nicer clothes. I know exactly what I need to do lol. Now getting myself to do it is another story...

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My girlfriend and I need a ride.

Anonymous wrote:
In plain english. Shes a flirt with males and gets off on it because of her looks.
What I need to decide is if I can respect myself with this abuse..

Wait. How does she flirt? She’s 22, right? I remember who I was when I was 22. I got all of my self worth and self esteem from how I looked and how many guys flirted with me or asked me out. (I grew out of that and am happier and wiser for it.)

So is it blatant flirting? Is she affectionate with you around other males? Are you affectionate in public?

I’m sorry, I’m just confused and looking to understand how you’re feeling here. Relationships are complicated and advice that might work for me may not work for you.

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Yea he was my dad.

You can love someone and not like them.

Part of you can also love that person and simultaneously hate them.

Life isn’t black/white. It’s not as simple as that. Focus on recovery and when there is negativity, try to distance yourself from it. That’s all you can do.

Just remember that it’s ok for you to love your father for the things he provided for you and the time he spent with you and also hate him for the bad things he did to you.

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My girlfriend and I need a ride.

smiley wrote:
But it won't help with the underlying insecurity. Do you have any reason to not trust your girlfriend? Or are you carrying baggage from previous failed relationships? You might want to look into it and solve the real problem.

Im wondering the same thing.

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I need to get out more.

smiley wrote:
@Araz thank you, you give good advice that I didn't want to hear but needed. Making friends is hard and there's no shortcut. I just gotta quit being a coward or accept things as they are.

Sorry, I’m often the person who winds up having to say the unpopular or hard thing :( I do hope I helped and I want you know that making friends is hard and you’re not a coward for it.

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I need to get out more.

Time spent together is what makes people go from acquaintance to friend. It’s a lot like dating - if you don’t nurture the relationship and put time into it, you can’t have that close connection you’re seeking.

There’s definitely some conflict in any deep, meaningful friendship and it doesn’t come easy. Start off casual and ease yourself into it.

Find an activity and talk to one or two people per event. Really focus on the person you’re talking to and try to get to know them. If you like them, suggest hanging out again! If they take you up on it, try to invite them to other things and events. That’s how friendships form :)

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Need help writing a text.

music=life wrote:
This is perfect

Yay!

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Need help writing a text.

music=life wrote:
@Araz I’m scared he might eventually want a relationship and I don’t want to hurt him

I see :( I would ask him. I would probably text him something along the lines of “Hey, I’m just trying to get a feel for what our situation is - I’m not in a place to be in a relationship but I enjoy spending time with you. How does that work for you?”

That kind of puts the ball in his court but also it lets him down gently if he is heading towards being in a relationship with you.

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Need help writing a text.

music=life wrote:

Araz wrote:

music=life wrote:


[quote from verge]

ahh good call

Yes! What exactly do you want, music=life? Do you want to break up soon?

I think that might be the best decision. It’s just been nice to have a person I can reach out to even if it’s for a hookup. I feel needed and I feel like I have someone.

I’ve been in bad relationships in the past so that is not something I want right now. If I end things I won’t seek out any type of friends with benefits with someone new. I am using this relationship as a way to just be around a person. I feel isolated where I am and as hard as I try it is not going to change until I get and new job and move back to the city.

Do you think maybe this person would be interested in being just friends? And are you thinking about getting out of the friends with benefit deal right now because of what others might say or because you’re afraid he might want to be in a relationship?

Sorry for all of the questions lol Im just trying to get clarification before I go spouting off some advice that may or may not fit your needs.

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