Hmmm. I don't really blame you for your feelings but at the same time, ive been in this situation several times where the friend is female and i never had a problem with it, and you should ask yourself if you would care if it was a girl giving the ride instead of a guy.

Just because you're in the backseat doesnt mean you cant participate in the convo. If it feels like when he's around that she's ignoring you, thats a seperate issue from the seating arrangement.

If you're feeling left out, sit behind her and stroke her shoulder casuaaly. It'll remind her that you're there and she'll enjoy it.

Of course, this is assuming its just the three of you in the car.

When i read the title of this post i was like...he's really gonn as for a ride on here? Lol

Agreed with the above. Not too strange unless there are other things going on to make you uncomfortable.

dont get butthurt, its just a ride. ****shit like this can ruin a relationship if you bring it up or dwell on it. maybe she didnt want to make him feel like an uber driver or chauffeur.

If you don't know the guy, it might be awkward for you to sit in front, and it certainly would be awkward for both of you to sit in the back. I think you're letting your insecurity get the better of you.

I like the suggestion that you sit behind your girlfriend and lightly touch or rub her shoulder. That might help you feel less insecure since you would be "staking claim".

But it won't help with the underlying insecurity. Do you have any reason to not trust your girlfriend? Or are you carrying baggage from previous failed relationships? You might want to look into it and solve the real problem.

Im wondering the same thing.

You only mentioned the car ride before, not a whole behavior pattern.

Have you communicated with her that you feel this way? If she knows it upsets you and she does it anyway, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship. Do you want to feel like this for the rest of your life?

Different people feel different ways.
Specifically- she sounds extroverted and you introverted.

Extroverts generally don’t see issues with being friendly/close with friends- regardless of gender. In her mind it’s very likely just a sign of “respect” to sit up front with the friend to keep them company while they do a favor for you two as a couple.

You sound pretty insecure, do you think there's something you could do that would help you be more secure rather than trying to alter her behavior?

Your girlfriend isn't your equal - she has all the power and as long as she does, you're going to discover that life has more backseats than found in cars alone.....
The idea that relationships are equal is a lie - they aren't. It's about mastering an illusion. It's about having all the power and pretending it isn't good enough - because in reality, what can you provide without power?
Love??? It's a dime a dozen, lined up out the door and around the block - how many guys are waiting for their chance at your girlfriend when getting a simple ride shouldn't even be a thought.

First, I don't speak in riddles and I generally slice through socially acceptable opinions which are actually well disguised trends.

If the car you two share is/was simply in the shop, you should have mentioned that earlier as it changes the whole dynamic. It simply sounds like you need to increase your transportation potential so that you rely on each other and not someone else.

****fuck it then, smash her mates face in with a brick, call her a bloody ****slut and move on.... lmao

Hi, I'm honestly just trying to help. I would like to help you see that insecurity is something everyone struggled with and no judgement on your character. It can come from one partner disrespecting you too much, but something that needs to be addressed is that if you honestly see your worth, these things she did wouldn't hurt you so much. The fact that you didn't even talk with her about it, but posted about it on Facebook to get other people's opinions makes it more obvious. She got the ride for you two, in one case, she was obligated basically to sit with the friend to validate the basis of the transaction - friendship.

Here's your problem.

The fact that women who have answered see no problem in her actions should indicate to you that there is a good chance she doesn't even realize your feelings have been hurt.

Talk with her. Tell her how you feel. I'm sure the two of you can reach an understanding if you communicate.

Wait. How does she flirt? She’s 22, right? I remember who I was when I was 22. I got all of my self worth and self esteem from how I looked and how many guys flirted with me or asked me out. (I grew out of that and am happier and wiser for it.)

So is it blatant flirting? Is she affectionate with you around other males? Are you affectionate in public?

I’m sorry, I’m just confused and looking to understand how you’re feeling here. Relationships are complicated and advice that might work for me may not work for you.

You're not really presenting a challenging scenario there. It would kinda be weird if you didn't do it that way.

Rather, consider if it was your mom driving. Wouldn't you want to sit in the front? Should your girlfriend feel disrespected because you're sitting up front with your mom, chatting away about old times while she sits awkwardly in the back? Wouldn't it feel weird if there was no one in the passenger seat while you two sat in the back?

This might be bad, but it really depends on the context. Are you not dancing at all? Is it a club? Is she dancing with randos or good friends? How freaky is the dancing? Depending on the answers it could be innocent or it could be a bad situation.

See, THIS is something completely different. She's flirting with other guys? Are you sure? If you are, and it's bothering you, you're completely within your right as a long time boyfriend to ask her that she stop. Don't freak out about it, just be like, hey, it seems to me sometimes like you're flirting with other guys, and it really bothers me. Talk about it.

As an afterthought, are you sure she's just being a flirt? Maybe she's mad at you about something and chatting it up with other guys to get on your nerves.

Lol, this post gave me anxiety while reading XD

So, I understand where you're coming from - but sitting up front with her friend is fine (my SO would probably also feel slightly jealous and not say anything, but he has no reason to doubt me), the person would be /my/ friend who I would sit next to. I actually had a male friend I'd hang out with quite often, even spend the night at his place (like a sleep over if we were drinking). Meanwhile, he was also in a relationship (engaged and now married - his partner was fine with us being friends), and I don't see a problem with two platonic friends hanging out (whether male or female). However, dancing with other men (if that's what she's into) while in a relationship, is different, if it's 'clubbing' and not 'ballroom' type dancing. That, I think you should bring up to her. If you're there and willing to dance with her, that's who she should dance with (in the opinion of a 25-ish female who also enjoys dancing).

For the scenario with your mom and GF, I'm of the opinion that your mom should take the front seat (out of respect for her). I'd say it's rude to put one's mother in the back seat. As the female in my relationship, I'd offer the front seat to my partner's mom or my mom (regardless of who is driving).

End it. Quit the relationship. Find someone else. Someone less beautiful. Someone you can bond with. Not superficial and based only on her looks. You will be happier and so will she. Heck. Who knows... she might fall in love with a blind gentleman. Someone that will treat her with genuine kindness and love.

If shes the only one who knows the guy then yes, I would say that would be perfectly normal. If your good friends with the guy too then I would have expected you to sit up front.

I'm wondering if she is insecure if she flirts with so many different guys...

i would say this is a standard reaction by the nature of men. funniest thing is how we have to decide how we want to play this out. does emotional jealousy dictate our reason? or is it a learning experience on understanding yourself? is the very problem with how women dont know 2 inches from knowing how you feel about it and pisses you off!... blah blah..

it all starts with the types your'e with in absolute order.

*****whore
****slut
independent
cool chick
somewhat needy
dependent
clingy
the boss
your slavemaster.. bruhaha

yea .. all kidding aside.. i wouldnt like it either.. but that would lead me to .. confront her about it or .. anything goes