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Do married people fall in love with another person easily?

I just wonder because I have never been in love (at least I think not)/relationship.

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I think you have to fall out of love (at least to a certain degree) with the person youโ€™re married to first.

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I've always been of the mind set that "true love" or "soul mate" doesn't really exist. Statistically speaking, you would never realistically meet this person, even if they were born in the same time period as you. Even if they were in your local area, chances of you meeting are low.

Relationships are things that are built with time, and love is a deep part of a relationship.
As for the argument of only being in love with one person- I also think that's false. We can love our families and children at the same time as our current "mate", so why not be able to love multiple people at once?

I'm not saying it's a good thing or that you should go out and fall in love when you're already in a relationship with somebody else, but I don't think that love is conditional on whether or not you are currently or have previously been in love.

Just a personal opinion. ๐Ÿ˜„

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Only if they choose to.

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Probably not. But relationships do take work

I also think that someone who gets married "lightly" may not really love their spouse. I think that there are people out there who want to be married just for the sake of being married and not because of the love for the other person. Those people "fall in love easily with others..."

For those who take their time marrying and who are selective, I think that with work and perseverance; weathering the ups and downs and still being by each other's side, it's far less likely that they "fall in love with another..."

And, finally.....

smiley wrote:
Only if they choose to.

Araz wrote:
I think you have to fall out of love (at least to a certain degree) with the person youโ€™re married to first.

Yep ^^^^^^^^

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Some people fall in love with a fantasy and not the actual person themselves.
Being the case it could be very easy.

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Ever heard the expression, "the grass is greener on the other side"? That may or may not be true. If the lawnmower is left in the garage the whole time you never really find out...

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Love is a discipline.

Here's a cold, hard fact about life: there will always be someone wittier, prettier, sexier and richer than your spouse.

AND there will always be someone wittier, prettier, sexier and richer than YOU.

So we guard our feelings and we DO NOT ALLOW OURSELVES to indulge in thoughts about someone we find wittier, or prettier, or sexier or richer than our spouse. We mentally change the subject (or the channel) and we refocus on our spouse and our relationship.

When someone tells his/her spouse, "Oh . . . I didn't mean for it to happen, but I just fell in love with someone else."

NO.

IF you LOVE your spouse, if your marriage vows mean anything to you, then you will never, ever say those words to him or her.

NEVER.

Because if you do, they mean that you are incapable of the discipline of love, and that you are ripe for the taking by anyone who's wittier, prettier, sexier or richer than your present spouse.

And that's not a good thing. It denotes you as the lowest form of humanity--completely at the mercy of animalistic urges.

Soulless.

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Sometimes for some people โ€œitโ€™s sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes alongโ€. Thatโ€™s a song.

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littlenick wrote:
Sometimes for some people โ€œitโ€™s sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes alongโ€. Thatโ€™s a song.

By England Dan and John Ford

https://youtu.be/_pYmcz0EgJ0

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Sure people can fall in love at any time. Of course if you are already married and especially if you have children you just walk away. I mean you made your choice is your life really going to be better shuffling your kids around and dealing with an ex and dividing up friends and property just so you can be with someone else? I mean aren't you going to meet another person that you fall in love with again after the second marriage?

Being married is not easy, there are going to be days when you wake up and hate everything about everybody. Then you see some stranger eyeing you and by golly why not give life a try with that person? A week later you realize you hate them more than you ever did the people you were with before.

I guess it's not that big of a deal if you don't have kids. If you do and you act on these feelings of love every time you are attracted to someone then you are just a selfish asshole. Your kids don't want two moms or dads or stepbrothers or sisters or whatever... hell that's half the problem with the world is that there are very few children being raised by their real mom and dad who inherently love them. I mean I would die for my children, most people would. Step kids, ehhhh maybe.

I just read a psychology report that said that girls are having their periods at a younger age because it is a defense mechanism their bodies have to get away from unsafe environments. Unsafe environments like no man in the house, or a man in the house that is not their father, things that are ingrained in our being. It effects us physically...

And it's the age old feelings vs facts syndrome and I think it manifests itself in government too. Liberals try to do what makes everyone feel good at any given time and conservatives do what they think will give them the best outcome in the long run. That's what I think.

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DocteurRalph wrote:
Sure people can fall in love at any time. Of course if you are already married and especially if you have children you just walk away. I mean you made your choice is your life really going to be better shuffling your kids around and dealing with an ex and dividing up friends and property just so you can be with someone else? I mean aren't you going to meet another person that you fall in love with again after the second marriage?

Being married is not easy, there are going to be days when you wake up and hate everything about everybody. Then you see some stranger eyeing you and by golly why not give life a try with that person? A week later you realize you hate them more than you ever did the people you were with before.

I guess it's not that big of a deal if you don't have kids. If you do and you act on these feelings of love every time you are attracted to someone then you are just a selfish asshole. Your kids don't want two moms or dads or stepbrothers or sisters or whatever... hell that's half the problem with the world is that there are very few children being raised by their real mom and dad who inherently love them. I mean I would die for my children, most people would. Step kids, ehhhh maybe.

I just read a psychology report that said that girls are having their periods at a younger age because it is a defense mechanism their bodies have to get away from unsafe environments. Unsafe environments like no man in the house, or a man in the house that is not their father, things that are ingrained in our being. It effects us physically...

And it's the age old feelings vs facts syndrome and I think it manifests itself in government too. Liberals try to do what makes everyone feel good at any given time and conservatives do what they think will give them the best outcome in the long run. That's what I think.

100% agree

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