This post left anonymously

I have come to the conclusion that people just do not take me seriously or respect me.

I email businesses about inquiries regarding there product but never appear to get a reply.

I respond to email inquiries about my own product yet am unable to secure the business.

I do not know where I am going wrong. Even my own family do not take me seriously or respect me. How do I gain peoples respect?

This open post was written |
Views: 71, Subscribers: 10 |
Leave a reply | Report Post

⇩ Zoom to bottom
Reciprocity (0)
Reciprocity
Since writing this post Anonymous may have helped people, but has not within the last four (4) days.
Post Tags (5)
email, peoples, product, respect, inquiries
Replies (13)
Me
(1 hour after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Believe in yourself and show you believe in what you say. People are generally less likely to take you seriously if you lack self belief. so that could be a possibility

Sherlock by olga tereshenko d9qdidc
(1 hour after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

You need a good sales person in your organization. Remember--there are competitors by the thousands out there. You have to differentiate yourself from the others. You have to show them that your customer service beats everyone else's.

Inquiries about your product need to be followed up by a glib-talking salesperson.

Nothing just sells itself--not any more!

Electric
BA1
last online: 01/25, 20:20
Verified User (7 years, 2 months)
Long Term User
Shoutout0
#
(2 hours after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Most of the answer resides within the problem you present.
Companies don't respond to personal correspondence like they did in the past. Due to times of increasing inconsideration, for the very same reason you mentioned in your second paragraph.

Regarding family....well....who's respected under their own roof these days?

Screenshot 20201225 201925 google
(2 hours after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

I wish I knew the answer to this.

26177036 10215274775811609 2093060189 n
(2 hours after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

confidence is key, bing well spoken in your emails and making people believe you are passionate about the product. you need to make them think that theres no way they coul not have this product ni their lives/on their shelves etc. if you lack confidence people will pick that up even over an email. i had to build my confidence up alot working in sales and actually its driven me to better places in most areas of life.

1581744157174 1581744149313 miss bot
last online: 03/19, 3:49
Verified User (7 years, 2 months)
Long Term User
Shoutout0
#
(5 hours after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

You have come to the wrong conclusion. Simple as that.

You can't control the thoughts and actions of others. What they do is their business. If you don't get a reply to an email it's no big deal. Quit thinking that it is any reflection on who you are as a person.

Hayao
(7 hours after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

It's hard to interpret respect through text and emails, so maybe the other party doesn't mean to disrespect you. Maybe it's just strictly business and they don't need your services or goods because they already have someone to satisfy that need. I wouldn't take those things personally because you can never know what the other person is thinking through an email. Maybe you just have to be persistent and friendly, keep reminding them of your product. But don't come off as too "spam-y" because then they will be turned off.

And I'm sorry that your family doesn't treat you with respect. It sounds like they don't really deserve it that much. Just try to grin and bear it, and they will eventually come around.

20171211 231547
(19 hours after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

I agree with everyone here and I think maybe you should focus on why you feel the need to have their respect. It could be pride or feelings of inadequacies or just because you have learned it to be an important aspect of human relationships. Anything. In most cases of my experiences with the intricacies of social relations, as soon as I realized the reason for the things I craved, the sooner I got them. Keep your head up, do everything to the best of your ability and and everything else will fall into place.

Cb97425f a27b 4dd6 a43b e54138790934
(1 day after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Be careful how you're wording your messages to these people, it is all about confidence and being assertive, not to disrespect others, for e.g. "I believe you might like this product, will you try it and share your opinion?" vs. "This is a product you need and will absolutely love, give it a try and tell me what you think"
Apply this to everything you say to people, never sell yourself short. Especially in cover letters when applying to jobs. Women especially have trouble with this in a male dominated world, where we have to downplay our attributes to seem more acceptable to males who are often our 'superiors' in the work setting. If we are mindful about the way we're wording things, we can seem equally as confident! For me, it's completely subconscious, it's natural for me to downplay myself - also a struggle for people with a low self esteem.

4be8c2d8 78e3 4f52 8977 21b6cc47a3ee
last online: 12/14, 0:56
Verified User (7 years, 2 months)
Long Term User
Shoutout0
#
(1 day after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Here’s something that has helped me:

You’re never really going to sell anything if you’re trying to sell. I know that sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out.

You’re not selling, you’re helping. Change your mindset. You’re doing THEM a favor, not the other way around.

If I’m speaking with a client who wants to buy a house, I’m going to search using their needs. “Oh, so-and-so, I remember that you have an elderly parent living with you and I’m so excited I found a house with a bedroom on the main floor. We should go look at it ASAP, I think it’s a really good fit for you”.

If I had said, “so-and-so, I would love to show you this house, please let me know when you are available?” Well - that doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything for them, does it?

Also - I never, ever sell people anything they don’t need. Integrity is important. When I was working in IT, I would get in trouble for this. Why would I convince someone to spend an extra grand on a server when they really just need a regular computer? It’s unethical.

4be8c2d8 78e3 4f52 8977 21b6cc47a3ee
last online: 12/14, 0:56
Verified User (7 years, 2 months)
Long Term User
Shoutout0
#
(1 day after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

I’ve been told I’m good at sales because people trust me. The only reason they trust me is because I’m honest and treat them how I would want to be treated. Do the same and you will succeed!

Sherlock by olga tereshenko d9qdidc
(2 days after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Araz wrote:
Also - I never, ever sell people anything they don’t need. Integrity is important. When I was working in IT, I would get in trouble for this. Why would I convince someone to spend an extra grand on a server when they really just need a regular computer? It’s unethical.

"Upselling" is the bane of our age--pressuring sales people to sell people things they don't need. Years ago, Sears did this to their automotive customers. They sold my mother new shocks for her car that was only a year old, and driven very infrequently. That's one of the reasons Sears is sinking today--too many bad customer practices in the past.

When I bought my last car, the dealership had these worthless "add-ons" they wanted to sell me:

1. Upholstery protection - $400. So they would take a $5.95 can of ScotchGuard and spray it on the upholstery--and use only about a fifth of the can.

2. Electronic rust protection - $600. I had checked out these gadgets long before. The experts' verdict: they are completely worthless.

3. Polymer paint protection - $700. Supposed to eliminate the need to wax your car. I now use wax products like Turtle Wax's ICE that lasts at least six months.

4. Third-party extended warranties - $1,200. A lot of these companies have declared bankruptcy, leaving their customers in a lurch. And, if you read the complaints on the Internet about them, you will see that getting them to pay is like pulling teeth.

As soon as someone tries to upsell me, I stop them right there and make it clear that I don't want useless add-ons.

4be8c2d8 78e3 4f52 8977 21b6cc47a3ee
last online: 12/14, 0:56
Verified User (7 years, 2 months)
Long Term User
Shoutout0
#
(2 days after post)
Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Yes, Sherlock - what happened to your mother is a great example of why integrity is so important. They made money short term, but lost a long term client - which will cost them in the end.

I hate upselling too. Car dealerships are absolutely the worst when it comes to that. I have some friends in the auto business - it turns you into an absolutely ruthless salesperson.

A
⇧ Zoom to top

Help-QA supports basic Markdown, emoji 😁, and tagging friends with @username!