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First grey hair age 26

@ 24

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Do you believe in soulmates?

Shitty soul mates don't exist because soul mates don't treat people shitty.


If someone is shitty, they just haven't matured to "soul mate phase."

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Have you changed since help closed years ago?

I've changed.

Before: I was a go getter and ready to save the world. I was social and out and about all the time. I headed committees, vounteered almost as many hours as a full time job, went to the gym everyday. I kept many "irons in the fire" and had lots of responsibilities as a sort of "self medicating" way to not slide into depression. I was working on my master's degree. During the start of my time at OH, I was unhappy in my marriage. I had 3 kids. I got on help with a laptop. I did not own a cell phone.

NOW: I'm too tired to save the world. I can give advice but the call to action is a young person's game. I'm more behind the scenes now. I've tried to volunteer, but now it seems like most agencies prefer "organized volunteerism through other agencies" versus a woman on her own teaching classes for GED tests, etc. I'm no longer very social. People disappoint me and piss me off. My 2 best friends moved far away from here the same summer. I've fallen into another long term depression and come out the other side. Now I'm older and have lived at least half of my life, and realize how many precious days depression wasted.

I'm married to the same guy: going on 18 years in a month. We weathered our storms, loved each other enough to stick it out, and are stronger now. I have 4 kids and even though I'm older, wouldn't mind another. We've started the process to adopt also. I'm trying to get back into the gym. I remember how good I felt, going everyday for 10 years. I want to feel good again, physically. It's not about looks now, but about being strong and able in my old age. I have my master's degree and the debt too.

I have my first cell phone and have had it for one year (I was resistant). I homeschool my 4 kids and realize just gow precious they are and how much they mean to me versus taking them for granted. I get on help with the cell phone. I moved, but just across town.

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Do you believe in soulmates?

Yes, I do. I also believe you have more than one

If they are shitty, they aren't a soul mate to ANYONE. Soul mates take care of themselves, their loved ones, and their responsibilities

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Evansent wrote:
I would be exactly same Pep. I have a special place in my heart for the homeless just like yourself.
Have you done what, Sherlock suggested?

Doing that today in a little while. Currently have a houseful of noisy kids (my 4 + 4) and the noise is prohibitive to a productive phone call...

Didn't want to do it yesterday (Easter)

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Yes, it's killimg me @Evansent
I can't imagine what this lady is going through. A 60 year old woman out on the streets.

@Sherlock she was a productive member of society right up to the point of losing her job due to her bugs. I agree with you: refugees get help, but citizens don't

@Kalinihta yes. We shoild have just let her stay when we got the place exterminated, but my husb was adamant. We have 4 kids and not a ton of extra money to be spending like that. Also, we are all asthmatic and have allergies. One of the home remedies we used made us all sick.

I just can't believe I'm "that person" who would put someone out of my house, but it was all during the panic mode. That very same day, I was all over town looking for her

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CaraMia wrote:
Oh Pep!! I hope that you can find some peace with this soon. I know that it has to be killing you inside. Maybe a decision can be made and you can just move on...IF she doesn't answer you at all, maybe that decision has been made.


Please take it easy.... ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ

Yes... her not reaching out or answering has made it easier

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Sherlock wrote:
Check with a local Episcopal church. They know about all of the programs for the homeless and needy.

Does she have ANY family?

No family. I called a couple places. They are either too full or closing down

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Jebus-Zeus wrote:
bed bugs freak me out, your crazy for letting her movie in. youre lucky if your whole house isnt infested now also, which it might be..

It's not. I hired a specialist way back in Feb. He treated it 3x in 10 days and since then.... no signs

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