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Having a cat, an evolution of being a slave.

I have similar issues with my two dogs. Only, the curtains aren't the issue. But I happen to like the mud-painted footprints all over my house. It gives the lino a nice rustic look.

Plus it's called FURniture for a reason.

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Would a man love me for me and ignore the fact that right now in my life I am not financially stable?

I used to feel the same way, and it sort of felt worse it when I finally figured out that I was asexual, because, unless I magically found another asexual person that I was romantically attracted to...who the hell would be okay with me not being sexually attracted to them? Most likely, they'd probably end up seeing someone else because I wouldn't be keeping them happy.

But I think that was just me adding to the pressure myself. But the other advice others have given you, is well said. Your job or finances shouldn't be a "selling point" for you being attractive to another person. And if it is, personally...I wouldn't think too highly of them.

Plus, just because you don't feel you have found the career NOW, doesn't mean that you never will! I'm 33 and ten years ago, I didn't even have the self-esteem to be able to apply for a job, because I had no way to say "I'd be an asset to your company because..." and then I'd draw a blank. My self-esteem was pretty shitty, and it would feel like I'd be lying, because I wasn't an asset to anyone's company. Unless they wanted someone to be an example of a shut-in, then I could have made the big bucks. Lol.

Now, I'm focusing on moving forward to get a masters degree...and that's just my BACK-UP, but it's still in-line with what I feel I really want to do with my life that would satisfy me. (Journalist/author). Ten years ago, I was bemoaning the fact that I'd never get to Hollywood... but, with my new direction, I still get to travel and write, or...I can easily just sit and type at my computer all day too, but I'm still doing something.

Money is not of a real concern of mine. It'd be nice to be able to stop renting in public housing and pay a mortgage, sure. But if me renting is the reason a man doesn't want me? Then he's kind of a trash human being to figure that as a deal breaker.

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Legit question: How do you know if your male friend is catching feelings?

I don't know how good my advice is, because my history with men is kinda pathetic. They're either completely obvious about it, and I'm repulsed by it, or I mistook kindness for them having feelings for me, and I bolted because it was awkward.

Recently, I've gotten in touch with an old friend from high school and the flirting is mutual...but mainly because I confessed when I had a few drinks one night, that I had a super secret crush on him when we were in school. Lol. Normally, telling a guy I had a crush on them, grossed them out, so I'm still shocked he's even talking to me! It's been 15 years now, and he's currently working overseas (he's some sort of scientist...he was the"smart jock" in school) but he's coming to stay with me next month while he's visiting home for a holiday. Mainly because I thought it would be cheaper than for him to stay in a hotel...

We've been talking mostly over Messenger for about a year or so now, and we've both made it pretty clear there's something there. But, it took a very scared move on my part to say anything in the first place. We haven't heard each other's voices since about 2002, let alone seen each other. Ironically, the last time we saw each other, we were both drunk...at the time though, he had feelings for my best friend. It seems to be a theme with us, even though neither of us are big drinkers. Lol.

For me though, he's probably the only guy who's ever "caught feelings" for me that wasn't a creep or over 50.

All the other times, they never made it subtle or went about it in a respectful manner. Most of the time, it was uninvited groping or something else puke-inducing. I have a lot of trust issues, and they really didn't help matters much. So me and "old high school friend" is still a pretty weird concept to me even after a year.

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Help me with..

Glad to hear that it was just that simple issue! Those cords can burn out really quickly. I've had two iPhones in the last 9 years and never had any problems with them internally, just those darn cables dying on me. Lol.

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Help me with..

If after the above advice doesn't help...how old is your charger/USB cord? After a while, they tend to burn out and need replacing. I've only had two iPhones over the last 10 years and I can't even recall how many lightning cables I've gone through...maybe about 8 something around there? It tends to give a connection error when connecting to the computer, refuses to charge, and the computer doesn't recognize it. It may be something as simple as just replacing the cable.

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What is the most ethical profession?

In my personal opinion? Animal rescue/health/welfare/research. I trust people on the basis of their ability to recognize non-human creatures as equal lives who matter just much as homo-sapiens.

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Every time I show up here, you can hear the echo of my posts since I'm the only one here.

Not true! Every time you show up here, it makes me smile in fondness. That is...if you are the actual littlenick and not just a substitute trying to get our hopes up.

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My manager admitted to me yesterday that she looked at my social media and I donโ€™t know how I feel about it.

Lano wrote:

Or maybe she's obsessed and in love with you and has a shrine of you in her attic with your new haircut picture in the center.

This had me laughing through a hangover this morning. Thanks! Lol.

I think if she hadn't told you she found it, it would be considered spying, but at least she was upfront with you, and let you know she's seen it. But I wonder if maybe making it private, might make her feel as if you don't like her, or it's a personal rejection? Perhaps she didn't follow you without knowing if you were okay with it and her telling you she'd found it, was her leaving that open door.

Are you maybe interacting with other co-workers, and that's how she may have found it? From how you explained it, it sounds like she might be trying to get to know you better outside of work, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. It could be a lot worse and she might have a slight against you. But it sounds kinda positive.

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if i were the president of the world

Abolish war and have certain crimes be a punishment of a life sentence in prison. None of this "parole" stuff for repeat offenders of some of the most heinous crimes.

I know, a typical liberal pacifist's answer.

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Is it ok for male actors or musicians to wear a touch of makeup on stage?

As far as I'm concerned, I don't care what profession a man has, if he wants to wear makeup, there's not a damn thing wrong with it.

However in certain performance circles, theatre, dance, music, film/television etc, make-up is usually required and not just for "society standards" but for lighting reasons.

For instance, in dance, make-up is used heavily so that expressions can show up from a distance between the dancer and the audience. Otherwise, the lights wash out the skin and the facial lines can be difficult to see, taking away elements from the story.

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