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Gratefulness is helpful, so I am grateful for it.

It is super good, thanks for reminding me!

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Talk to me.

Don't know what you did, but if you have no idea then it can't be that bad! Sending love, anon!

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looking back.

That's really interesting. The book The Presence Process by Michael Brown has a lot about getting back in touch with feeling and sensation and I highlt recommend it just for some of the insight I've gotten from it. I was very susceptible to embarrassment as a kid too, to the point that I would remember moments I felt ashamed about for years until I could look back much much later and realize it was utterly ridiculous to feel so badly about those things. Yeah, Michael Brown even talks about numbing in ways although I only experienced some emotional numbness, not physical. I don't think people have any idea of the effect they have on others most of the time, so the people who made you feel bad probably didn't mean to harm you, not that that makes much difference now. Anyway, it's worthwhile to get back in touch with your feelings, good luck to you if you want to try :)

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Rydal caves, an English walk.

Nice! Thank you for sharing lovely pictures of your adventure.

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as the page rotates.

I am not a vampire, but I did get sunburnt yesterday...

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So I've started writing a new thing...

Cool!!! Looks exciting, I really want to hear all about the planet and life on it and how it's different from earth.

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What's the best way to deal or accept people disliking you as a result of ignorance?

That's tough, it's too bad you have to be around them. I think kindness is an amazing teacher, so if you can manage to be kind to them even in the face of their awfulness, you might make a difference for them and others like you. :) As for help with coping emotionally, taking responsibility for the entire situation can be very empowering. Understanding definitely lessens the hurt of hate, and if you manage to understand the whole thing from their perspective and yours, it's suddenly a lot easier to forgive both them and yourself. Railing against the idea that you should ever have to be forgiven points toward how almost all people, myself included, do actually internalize hate and then build up all kinds of arguments to defend and justify ourselves, which then can result in projecting self hatred, just like you're noticing in this other person.

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How do you pick a person?

I remember you sharing experiences similar to this other times, the last one I remember from a long time ago was the boy at the bus stop. We're drawn to people who reflect aspects of ourselves that we need to understand better, the tricky part is when we get too curious about the weaknesses and focus on them instead of the strengths. The strengths are what can teach us the most, especially when it comes to overcoming familiar weaknesses.

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How do you pick a person?

I pick a person by loving them unconditionally, so I am very very picky. Works like a charm though!

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I'm drunk right now and probably no one is on by hi.

Iโ€™m not drunk, just trying to stay awake until my person comes back. Thanks for the delightful distraction of this intoxicating post. :)

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