My relationships are based on company, more than anything else. I enjoy keeping people around that seem to enjoy being in my company and the other way around. I expect nothing outside of company.

I "use" people to get rid of my loneliness, I guess. 😉

Yeah I guess everyone "uses" there partner in one way or another.
But abusing that power is a different story.
It should be equal on both sides.
When I'm in a relationship I tend to give my all.

Everyone's different I guess.
Personally I didn't go into my new relationship to "get something out of it" it just happened.
But now we are dating then yes we "use each other for multiple reasons.

People like you based on the way you make them feel.

This can be explored further based on the individuals preferences, experience level and personality. Formative years says a lot about the chosen relationships, but few take the time to take in the lessons of life and to grow with the experiences and end up bitter blaming everyone for their failures.

On the whole one have to uphold responsibility and learn who one actually is. Relationships should help with this process, if not they are destructive or rendered mute in the overall growth process.

On an additional note, people in general are terrified of exposing themselves and shy away from being true. This comes into manifestation in relationship to self firstly, but also to others.
From there comes all the issues.

No. Lol

"People like you based only on how much they can fu(< with you."

Even though this happens, it's not normally the way things are.

"What value do any of your relationships have to you?"

All relationships have value and meaning.

"What do you get from them?"

Well, I get paid with the relationship I have with my boss. I get the sense of loyalty from the relationship I have with my dog. I get comradarity from the relationship I have with friends. I receive affection from the relationship I have with my mate. I receive founding and guidance with the relationship I have with my parents.
To wit, all of these relationships have a south-side orifice that can become inflamed if not properly cared for and respected.

"How much do you give of yourself to maintain it?"

The criteria of a relationship should be reasonable with attainable goals or an objective. A bar shouldn't be set so high that it automatically defeats the relationship itself.

"Is it worth it?"

It depends if you can stand being the last a$$h0!# you will ever argue with.

"Our society is such a way, that all we do is use each other."

Using is different from abusing.

You reminded me of a children's (not really), book I've read, called The missing piece meets the big O, by Shel Silverstein. You can watch it here:
https://youtu.be/Af-jZUR3ua0
When it comes to relationships I give everything I can, because I want to, expect nothing more than a smile, a hug and maybe a good word, and maybe I'm just an idiot because everyone around me always seem like they're trying to accomplish their goals and only care about themselves. I don't know, maybe you're supposed to only care about you, but I'm keeping faith and hoping I'm doing the right thing.

Don't be close to anyone.

Don't let anyone close to you.

Not all the time, Joe.
Love happens when you least expect it.

Not only talking about love.

Including friends, family, or anyone else.

Is that really how you feel Joe? I thought you paid thousands for breast augmentation to bring people closer, not further away.

i know this for a fact in my experience there were a few times looking back that gave me insight where friendship happened.

one was moving around alot in my younger years.. being the newcomer is being fresh meat. children are cruel, until that one friend who comes around when your devastated.

parental enforced activity... camp, sport and some bs clubs where i met others where their parents did the same thing, pre-teen angst you name it we would lament it all together. im sure there were some pro go winner attitudes around.. i know this cuz i remember complaining " man all this sweat feels awful " the other kid said " I love it!! " at the time i didnt understand it - not my friend!

i dunno why this happens .. but we grow out of adolescence and become young adults supposedly knowing better we form into cliques .. identifying ourselves either with what we have in common we think alike and laugh together OR a deep desire to associate who we want to be or the benefits of association ie popularity.

i cant speak for everyone. but as I older and looking for a better life it just didnt happen. I resorted to a place where everyone was connected.

the net. it was a side activity i never took seriously .. a way to unveil your nature and express yourself without embarrassing yourself in real life.. but with the social networks and all that its steering your identity and well im ****shit out of luck.. we see this all the time.. those need an outlet to misbehave.. my advice.. dont get caught up in that bs.. the net is a tool .. thats all its ever been.. it doesnt define who you really are..

the story continues.. but i rather get back to the point.

what do i consider friends are those who mind dont matter .. those who dont do. i could be wrong tho, perhaps theres a better perspective i need convinced

Soco I don't think Joe did any augmentation for male attention,she did it for her own self esteem.
I think she's proven how dependent she is on her own tbh.
No offence Joe.x

^^
Independent.

I think that as well.

I had that done because the main thing I hated about my body was my *****boobs, and even when I was young, slim, and pretty, I couldn't be naked infront of anyone, and my insecurities caused problems with my relationships.
I didn't care about most relationships I had, but when I got into one with someone I wanted to be with forever and wanted to be open with, I wanted to fix a big issue.
I believed him 90% that he didn't care what my *****boobs looked like, but I still couldn't have lights on ***sex and be naked because of them.

I felt quite attractive apart from my *****boobs, and I had finally got a decent paid job where I could get the finance for surgery to fix the main aesthetic problem, so I had it done.

Is that for him or for me?

I'd hated them since my teens, I'd wanted it done since I first heard of boob jobs.

I lost the one I wanted to spend my life with.

Since that, 1 other guy has had access to those *****boobs since I had the misguided idea that getting with someone else would heal the pain, that access to the *****boobs lasted a week.

I have kept my *****boobs, my heart, and the rest of my body to myself for the last 18 months since that week of a bad idea.

I have attracted attention within this time, and had quite a few opportunities to let someone close to me and my *****boobs, but I am keeping away from absolutely everyone in every way.

You have to place yourself in a vulnerable position to know real love. You cannot remain in a fortress of ice and feel the warmth that love can give.

You must allow yourself to be loved!

You can remain in that fortress to avoidfeeling anything tho

But it is so cold and forbidding to anyone contemplating entering!

That's part of the attraction once it's established a warmth level can not be obtained to let anyone close, increasing the cold keeps everyone at bay and isolation complete

We all live in the same world, just different parts.
When we get confused as to where the line should be drawn to maintain a healthy co -assistance we have "basic common law". It's when it gets personal we get into a problem. Feelings, rights and beliefs.

I have the gift or invitation to post on this topic or site, not the right.
If I share my thoughts without harming or hurting while respecting TOS the relationship will continue until I end my participation.

As an adult in society I understand that I'm in charge of my choices and words.
The words "like and love" are a little tricky. We have all watched someone run into a wall on a unhealthy relationship and then listened to them.

So the answer is "no".
It all comes down to a giving, receiving, saving and sharing.
We're not meat, we're people. Call out the bad ones, it'll help.

Experience set the foundation for understanding. Understanding lay the foundation for wisdom. Wisdom brings with it a whole different view of things.
This means going through pain and fear. We tend to avoid this and try to live in a perpetual summer. Thus we maintain a solitude as we become afraid that who we are is not good enough, and we create a persona or a mask to show the world, but never act as a true self.

It’s simple really. One have to be real to operate on a healthier level. This will also ring forth he real in others and relations change. One observe individuals as something different when the masks comes off.

Being screwed over in whatever way is a choice. Not understanding this is ignorance. To do it knowledgeably is stupidity.

If the one path is not working, another can be taken.
It’s also difficult to earn the right to speak in real terms. Most people will never let you in.

The learning is about letting go. Letting go of a lot of the fear and judgement.
It’s not an easy thing, but it is simple. It’s about getting out of the way.

For me personally I’m fed up with dealing with all the fake. Thus I rarely talk to anyone at all. The persona is a waste of time. An illusion. A figment of the imagination to a frightened and cowardly individual that is terrified of being a self.

This is why wild animals run away. This “thing” that comes along is an abomination in nature and does not belong. Still many people adhere to this psychosis and spin a web they end up trapping themselves in. Wasting away in pain and suffering that is completely unnecessary.

You are right. We CAN put an end to people messing with us. Sometimes there is a price to pay--but it is always less than self-destruction. Better to quit a job that makes you feel like crap than to be psychologically eviscerated on a daily basis.