This is wrong on so many levels.

Dr. Kent said it best.
ANYWAY
People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered,
LOVE THEM ANYWAY
If you do good, people will accuse you of
selfish, ulterior motives,
DO GOOD ANYWAY
If you are successful,
you win false friends and true enemies,
SUCCEED ANYWAY
The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow,
DO GOOD ANYWAY
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable,
BE HONEST AND FRANK ANYWAY
What you spent years building may be
destroyed overnight,
BUILD ANYWAY
People really need help
but may attack you if you help them,
HELP PEOPLE ANYWAY
Give the world the best you have
And you'll get kicked in the teeth,
GIVE THE WORLD THE BEST YOU'VE GOT ANYWAY.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world your best anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

Luke 10:
And, behold, a certain lawyer stood up, and tempted him, saying, Master, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?

26  He said unto him, What is written in the law? how readest thou?

27  And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.

28  And he said unto him, Thou hast answered right: this do, and thou shalt live.

29  But he, willing to justify himself, said unto Jesus, And who is my neighbour?

30  And Jesus answering said, A certain man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among thieves, which stripped him of his raiment, and wounded him, and departed, leaving him half dead.

31  And by chance there came down a certain priest that way: and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.

32  And likewise a Levite, when he was at the place, came and looked on him, and passed by on the other side.

33  But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was: and when he saw him, he had compassion on him,

34  And went to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him.

35  And on the morrow when he departed, he took out two pence, and gave them to the host, and said unto him, Take care of him; and whatsoever thou spendest more, when I come again, I will repay thee.

36  Which now of these three, thinkest thou, was neighbour unto him that fell among the thieves?

37  And he said, He that shewed mercy on him. Then said Jesus unto him, Go, and do thou likewise.

I agree, one should treat others as they deserve to be treated. Treat people the way you want to be treated is poetic bullshit.

if i had the energy for this negativity train i would jump right in.. but these days im old.. tired and rather not participate.

its hard for myself to believe - tho.. i once was a very angry person and had this drive to make others miserable like me.. but u know.. gotta ask yourself what good comes out of this.

i've dealt with my share of stupid people.. god knows how i couldn't stand em, truth to be told you cant fix stupid, they take pleasure in your tantrums when you try lol.. bastards!

just let karma work at em.

As I have matured and learned more about people and psychology, I've learned that the way people treat others is a fantastic indication of how they view themselves.

Those who are ill tempered, vindictive, angry, hateful, feel all of that about themselves, not so much about the people around them.

I no longer take my mothers angry, miserable, hateful outbursts personally. I know that its nothing I have done that has caused it. I know that if it hadn't been that thing it would have been another 5 minutes later. Its not about me.

Sure people shouldnt treat you like ****shit. But trying to understand what that person is going through if possible (money issues, illness, loss of family member, we just dont know) helps to not take it too personally.

And when you dont take it personally, you can take a step back and react logically instead of emotionally.

And you never know, that little bit of kindness and understanding my be what they need to get them through a difficult time.

WHO decides how one should be treated..? WHO knows everything..?

Courts have (usually) lenghty trials to decide how to treat someone, and often they don't get it right..

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I don’t treat people the way I do in order to get something in return. I do it because I genuinely care about people.

It is not about giving to receive. It is about giving because it makes ou feel good inside.

People hurt me emotionally but I will still continue to follow my heart and be who I really am. Life without love in it is not a life worth living. I have to believe in love otherwise the world does not make sense.

Without love and kindness life has no meaning.

I have felt the bitterness when people have hurt me despite my caring but I will not allow myself to become over come with bitterness in my heart. I will continue to do my own thing. I control how I behave. I will not have another control how I behave or how I feel.

I believe that we should never let anyone dull our sparkle. But on the other hand we should always remain humble and then also be aware that we are also imperfect and that all people are imperfect.

I do sometimes think we shouldn’t treat others how we want to be treated however. For example I love hugs, but some people don’t like hugs especially some people with autism. And just because I like hugs doesn’t mean they make everyone feel good.

Really in my opinion, we should treat people how they want to be treated to the best of our understanding. If we know we are hurting someone’s feelings with words we say then we should stop using those words with that particular person. And just because those words would not upset does not give us any excuse to belittle anyone else for being upset over them.

There is absolutely no reason to be alive without love. I simply can’t live any other way. I feel sad for you that you feel how you do as if I were in your shoes then I’d struggle to find reasons to continue existing. Dunno about you, but I’d feel that way.

What a good response!

The way that people shout at others is how they shout at themselves. Possibly because they sadly didn’t learnt any different (yet). That “yet” can change though 😊

Why do you assume people are always being insincere if they try being nice? Not all people behave in the same way or feel things in the same way and if you saw them on a different day then they might behave differently altogether. Changing circumstances of ones life can have a massive impact on how they behave in all aspects of life.

I disagree that it is the truth or a fact. I believe that it is your opinion. And this is all my opinion.

I’m not being insincere when I try to be nice to people.. I don’t think so... I don’t except anything back... I mean I’m not closed minded but when I try and think about it I just can’t think of anything.. I think we are all imperfect however so I am not denying that. But being imperfect doesn’t necessarily make all people “bad” people.

My favourite quote is, be the change you want to see.

Did you ever think that perhaps others might feel the same way towards you? - That you would not care anyway, even if they were nice, so there’s no point being nice to you.

I understand your point. I even agree with it, except for one thing. Just because everybody else is a jerk, that doesn't mean you have to be a jerk too. Some people are jerks just because they have never seen a non-jerk.

I sort of feel the same with professionals around my social care and health care. I have put trust in so many people and has it dashed.

Every time I believe they believe me and are listening, later I feel like they’re not actually listening and we’re judging me the whole time.

I’m having an emotional day today. I probably shouldn’t be writing on here today coz my cognition and emotions are all out of whack. I just wish they would believe me and help me 😢

I trust people and then they go against me too. But I don’t think they understand. But they don’t listen for long enough TO understand.

And if they don’t understand then it puts me at risk. If they tell DWP that I don’t need help then I could lose my benefits and die. Cos the professionals don’t believe me.

I’m so traumatised by it all. Last time SALT didn’t think I needed much help and I ended up screaming for ages.

Today I told mam I’m doing my best and she said you’re not actually.. and then I lost it. I’m trying so hard and I don’t know what to do anymore. I need so much help and struggling so bad to get it. But then don’t believe I need it.

Mam doesn’t understand very good either. I’m having to hope on my carers to talk for me cos anything I say is used against me 😢😣

I dunno if they understand or don’t. sometimes people don’t understand but think they do and don’t want to hear anymore.

One thing I've realized is that sometimes people genuinely don't want to be treated as I do, so it pays to learn about them and how they really want to be treated and do that instead. I have learned a lot about myself and others by paying attention to this. I have also learned that sometimes people act like they don't want to be treated well at all and all signals point to "treat me worse" (they treat everyone including themselves like crap) and they need love and understanding. Mostly I don't care to deal with that, but it doesn't take much effort to be kind in minimal encounters with those people anyway.

Its best to give them hell.
I used to be a nice guy to everyone.
Now Ill give you the shirt off my back but if you disrespect this Italuan American you will have the wrath you deserve.

brilliant if not clever

I agree with OP on this. If you consistently treat me like crap, treating you “the way I want to be treated” is idiotic. No malice in my heart, I just don’t have time for bs and value my worth more now.

I've gotten over the whole treat me bad and I'll treat you worse syndrome., it's just a vicious circle anyway. It's better to smile at everyone, treat them with kindness, and try to make the world a better place. Heck half the time that just pisses them off more than getting in their face, which is even more fun..

miserable people bore easily i guess.. they need pleasure or excitement for their own selfish needs..

as for causes.. .. not enough good things happening to them and many more i could care less about

as for treating someone.. i treat the best for those i care for and refuse to have a bleeding heart for those unworthy of my good intentions.

Ehm, aren't you trying to be an influence on people by writing this post, and getting them to see things your way..?

This is not what I meant, I'm sorry. I meant that many courts make a wrong decision about guilty/not guilty verdict, and many innocent are in jail/executed, and many guilty are set free wrongly.. Only an arrogant person thinks they are right all the time, aren't they?

Our court system is not perfect. It never was meant to be. By being judged by a jury of your peers it is meant to take out as many flaws in it as humanly possible.

Yes; but if so many people can't get it right so often, how a single person can judge someone rightly with an absolute certainty.. and decide how to treat them/punish them?

Punishment is mainly decided by the laws and the judge presiding over the case. If it is not a capital murder case the judge gets to set sentencing from time served to life. Juries can recommend the death penalty but it is still up to the judge whether or not to follow that recommendation. And if a defendant is given a death sentence the case is automatically retried with a whole new set of jurors. That is 24 different people that get a say in if a person is punished by death of a crime.

Yes, exactly! A long and complicated system.. so how can one person alone decide how to treat others the way they deserve..?! That was the op urging people to do.. I rest my case here

just the other day i was talking to a like minded co-worker.. about how we're a diverse company.. and the ladies ( not all ) tend to make the most mistakes and get away with it.. a promotion even... and im thinking .. im near perfect endlessly actually preventing the daily mistakes or catching the errors saving millions of dollars.

came up with the saying.. when anything goes wrong.. the girls get rewarded, and the boys are punished. so whats wrong with the picture here.

bit of a chuckle but whatever.