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Padre_J_Roulston
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My sister-in-law passed away early this morning.

I honestly don't know what to do for my wife. I think that she is still in shock... even though she has helped make the funeral arrangements today.

I'm kinda glad that she has passed. She was in a lot of pain... so much so that the only way to keep her somewhat comfortable was to keep her sedated. Now she isn't in pain. That's something.

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Thanks helpbot, but no worries. ๐Ÿ˜Œ

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I'm so sorry to hear that. ๐Ÿ˜ž

Condolences to you and your/her family. Glad to hear that she isn't in pain any longer.

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Condolences for your family. I think it's reasonable to feel relieved that her suffering has ended while at the same time mourning her passing.

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Iโ€™m sorry and youโ€™re probably right. Iโ€™m sending hugs

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Padre wrote:
I honestly don't know what to do for my wife.

Just keep a loving hand on her shoulder. Keep a detail on those little things - foot massages, breakfast in bed and fresh-cut flowers.
.....you know.....

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Oh, i am sorry, Padre. Condolences to you and your wife.

As Big-Al wrote, hugs, and extra affection and if possible, help with chores and the funeral arrangements; prayers for her.

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Sorry to hear of your lost. Prayers for strength and peace my friend. Being there and listening is the best you can do.

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There isnt much you can do, your physical and mental support is enough.

Am sorry for your loss.

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Such sad news. Really am sorry to hear of your loss. Sincere condolences to you and your family.

Listen. Listen with your heart. That is what you do for your wife. Say little. The more she can vocalize her sorrow and grief the better. But it can't be forced. Let her know you are there to listen.
And love her...

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Thank you everyone. It means a lot.

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My sincerest condolences. I always wish I had magic words for comforting the survivors, but I know that I don't. Your wife is very fortunate to have you standing by her side at this time.

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Sending many condolences, thoughts, and prayers your family's way. To lose a sister... Your wife may need something solid, stable, and familiar. Somewhere to breathe and cry. And as little added stress as possible.

Let her know you're here if she ever needs a therapeutic talk. Some of my most helpful family memories are long reflective talks on top of the stairs or outside on a summer night. Peace and company do wonders. Maybe a good laugh too, when/if appropriate.

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Thank you.

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So sorry for your lost. At least she is resting now which is the main thing. My condolences goes towards you and your loved ones. Take care :)

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How are you doing Padre? Just hoping you'll check in.
IF there is anything we can do for you please don't hesitate to ask. We care.

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my condolences padre..

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Thank you all.

soco wrote:
How are you doing Padre? Just hoping you'll check in.
IF there is anything we can do for you please don't hesitate to ask. We care.

I'm holding. Very tired though. As much as I help others, and like to do so, all this social interaction is very draining for me... and that was just the visitations today. Tomorrow is the funeral. ๐Ÿ˜•

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Take care of your wife, these are really hard times. I haven't lost a sibling yet but I have a feeling if my sister dies before me it will be worse than losing my mom was. Give her a hug for Ralphie.

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These things are hard. I hope to one day sit in front of God and express my displeasure. I am sure I will learn something. But sitting here, on this mortal plane, I do not like the way our lives end at all.

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Apart from being there to offer comfort, and helping with the practical side of what to do, there's not much else you can do.

Expect mood swings and deal with them accordingly.
Don't take it personally if she lashes out

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BuckingFastard(JN) wrote:
Apart from being there to offer comfort, and helping with the practical side of what to do, there's not much else you can do.

Expect mood swings and deal with them accordingly.
Don't take it personally if she lashes out

It's quite natural to be angry at God because of things like this. I mean to have a long talk with God one day. I suppose, if I had infinite intelligence, I could understand why things are the way they are.

But with my finite intelligence, I think they suck.

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Very sorry to hear about your sister-in-law. My condolences.

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I think being there to listen can make the biggest difference x

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